His family believes in arrainged marriages and i dont want to tear him and his family apart.what do i do?we love each other so much.
2006-06-24 19:55:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
being an Indian i feel indian parents are very much attached to their values, indian culture and In India family is very very important for any indian........have a on to on discussion with that man' s parents....may be they are worried about their cultural values.....on indians love their religion a lot and expect their daughter in laws to follow their family values and culture..........in short you need to win their mind by becoming a true , sincere indian woman if you both really want to live with them.......
2006-06-25 03:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by rrr 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The acceptability level of OUTSIDERS by Indian family is very very poor and will always come up as an issue repeatedly many times in the married life .In other words even if accepted now there is no surety they wont go back on their words. Lot of possessiveness is there with the mothers .Even within India the caste, the region, the religion pay havocs . So it wont be a surprise if you face problem.
YOU BOTH HAVE TO SIT TOGETHER AND SETTLE IT OVER A LONG TERM PERSPECTIVE. HOW STRONG MINDED YOUR MAN. ARE YOU SURE HE IS NOT MARRIED ALREADY.
DECIDE RIGHT NOW WHAT WOULD BE THE POSITION OF BOTH OF YOU UNDER IMAGINARY CIRCUMSTANCES IN FUTURE.
Personally I am sorry I have my own reservations.
BEST OF LUCK.
2006-06-24 20:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by THATHA75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the consequences other than dislike? This is common, and many marriages hold very strong regardless. Love is the most powerful feeling. True love cannot be separated for long. Unless one or both allow it. Communicate with eachother and try to get acceptance. You are respected for respecting his families desires and he should appreciate that. Keep up the unselfishness and you are worth the sacrafice.
2006-06-24 20:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by ladybeth143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you cant change about him is his family,I think that will always come somewhere in between you 2,you cant change facts and his family is one of these facts,so i think you'd better split,i know this might hurt,but hurting a now for a while is much better than suffering in an unhappy marriage or suffer a divorce.Yet again i know that its hard.
2006-06-24 20:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by AB 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u both love each other then u shld convince his parents. After all parents are also human being, one day they will surely understand ur love. Try to impress his parents, proof them tht their son had made the best choice. It will take time but yes it is not immpossible. Dnt do anything against parents, take their blessings not curse........
All d best
2006-06-24 20:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Muskaan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married. If you two love each other.. That's all it matters.. They will accept you sooner or later.. Times will hard but I believe that parents love their children too much that it's just a threat.. but love conquers all..
2006-06-24 20:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This circumstance is always difficult. But basically it boils down to this. Would you still want to marry him, even if it means his family will hate him?
2006-06-24 19:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by opticalnoise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to win his parrents' hearts....communicate a lot wit dem. n let dem understand dat ur d perfect match4him.
2006-06-24 20:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by mithu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have faith if your love is strong acceptance will reward your service of loyalty.l
2006-06-24 20:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Reverand ANDREW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the reason why I don't approach Indian women and it kinda sucks because some of them are FINE, but that's how they are.
2006-06-24 20:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋