When we are engaging in a relationship why do we all prefer someone who is close to our own age?

Question

some of you crack me up with your comments about my pic in a tie which i wear in my business on occasion. I am a real life "bad boy" so to speak. I like rock music, drive a big 4 wheel drive, have 9 varsity letters from school (was called a dirty player by opponents in football but its a dirty game) worked out for 15 years and benced 410 pounds, am a black belt, and yes i have a little bit of cash. Throw your stereotyping out the door.

Answer 1

I like your picture! Continue to be FEARLESS!

I think that it may be a repetative pattern. We are such creatures of habit that we forget that perhaps an 25 year old could provide us with a different perspective. Also, it could be a personal choice, relieving fears of being able to know certain things or not looking the fool when you don't know what the 25 year old is talking about. I think that if a level of maturity is there, then age shouldn't matter. But because we are creatures of habit, we like to be comfortable with those we can relate on common ground like music and history. There are some that do break this barrier and more power to them. Although I am not talking about those who are having a mid life crisis, but those honestly open minded enough and sure enough of themselves to pursue such a relationship.

And then again, it might be because we like competition too much. Someone our own age could provide an outlet to strive to be better than the other. By competing we find what lacks in our own ability to succeed and we learn from each other ways to find our own path. Even though this may lead to an unhealthy relationship (if left unchecked), it is also what makes the world go round.

Answer 2

Because we have something in common, listened to the same music, saw the same movies, knew the same current events, we can relate to each others friends, we are at the same place in our lives as far as jobs are concerned and attitudes are concerned. We have things to talk about. Just think if you were 35 and you were dating an 18 yo, who was into piercings, rap, raves, etc. What the heck would you have in common, except maybe sex?

Answer 3

Probably because people want to grow old together instead of one being really old with no energy and one beign really young with high energy. Also, I think the fact that if the ages are too different, then there is a higher chance of being widowed for a long time instead of just a few years, and that would be really lonely I think.

Answer 4

I think most people have more in common with the people near their own age range. They've grown up with similar cultural references and common social experiences. However, I wouldn't say that "all" prefer someone close to our own age. Some people prefer younger people because of appearance and vitality. Others prefer older people due to maturity and wisdom.

Answer 5

I guess because there would be common grounds for communication. Such as, Education, Business, Family,etc. Sometimes, experience can play a role and being compatible.

Answer 6

people generally want to have a relationship with someone has common experiences and are in a similar stage in their lives so they can grow together

Answer 7

Not necessarily true depends on the person, attractiveness, mental compatibility...too many deciding factors to make that statement true

Answer 8

well I dont see it that was I am 22 and my husband is 30 there is a difference between us in age

Answer 9

BECAUSE YOU FEEL THAT THIS PERSON IS IN TO THE SAME THINGS AS YOU AND THE TWO OF YOU WILL HAVE A LOT OF THINGS IN COMMON AND ENJOY HANGING OUT

Answer 10

From my experience, most men date younger women. I know I prefer younger women...