Ok, so me n my boyfriend go away to school together n now we are each home for the summer...and we decided to make it work kind of long distance...we've been on and off for about 8 or 9 months and for the last 4 months we have been together officially, a couple of weeks ago he decided he need to take a break from our relationship becuz he was gettin scared of commitmnet and he was starting to get tempted by other pple n he didnt want to hurt me...which is understandable but still hard to accept....and he wanted to learn a little on his own and make some mistakes in order to make sure he can commit to me and be able to be there for me like he shud be in a relationship & latley ive been realizing that this is hard to accept and i feel like i dont know if i shud ever take him back. i love him so much tho and its hard but ive been havin some thoughts about that and now he made his decision 2nite & he told me he loves me & wants to be with me &i told him i need time to think...any advice?
2006-06-24 19:17:36 · 12 answers · asked by dcj787 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, you can do better. Secondly, he is a jerk. From the way he does it, it seems like he is putting you as a 'back-up girlfriend'. For all you know, he could have gone out to see other girls and probably get intimate with them. He was 'tempted by other people', you say? Bull. Don't let his mistake be yours. He left you for that period of time because he was afraid that your love wasn't 'good enough'. Well, if I were you, I'd dump him for good even though I love him so much. I'm sorry miss, but you can do better than a person who puts his priority as an option.
2006-06-24 19:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by tingaling 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well honestly, if this is a long distance relationship it's not going to work, because I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years and it probably was one of the worst relationships I've ever been in my life. It brings nothing but lots of arguments, trust issues, and such, it's no good to be living with. You should just let go of this and find a relationship down at where you are at because he's already telling you on and off that he's afraid of commitment and such, and it just sonds like he's not ready. It's great that you love him, but I'm just warning you that long distance relationships really do not work. But if you love him so much and he loves you as much as you do then go for it...but just be careful...
2006-06-25 02:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that long distance stuff is a bunch of crud. It only complicates things more than necessary. The breaks are just that. How thoughtful of him. Don't even think of marriage until you are in your late 20's to early 30's. By then both of you will have already made all the mistakes you are probably going to.
2006-06-25 02:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by MiKe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is gonna come from someone in love themselves...
Now the fact that he took a break isn't a sign of unlovingness. It is really hard to live away from the person you love. So he prolly doesnt even want to do anything with anyone else cause he loves you soo much. So for him to take a break was just as hard for him but he did it for you. So you wouldnt have to wait for him even though he wanted you to. So I say take him back and let it work. ":)
2006-06-25 02:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by EricKing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in college and trying the long distance thing, why not just have an open relationship? You guys can see other people and each other, but have some type of boundaries. If it's meant to be, he'll come back eventually.
I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. Good luck. *HUGS*
2006-06-25 02:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should get him back, but make him wait before you say yes to him...Take things slow, like you are taking things from the start, a fresh start...and this time tell him he h as to be sure what he's feeling for you ,coz you can be easily hurt by how he acts towards you.
2006-06-25 02:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by anilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend is in his late teens or 20s. Remember he is in his sexual peak. He doesn't think past his hormones. He needs a steady lay to stay with the girl. He will say anything to the girl in hopes of getting more lay. He wants to justify his wandering eyes, but he can't. If there is another girl that will give it up to him at his town, he will try to keep both lays.
2006-06-25 02:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Big Money 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if u r young there are more fish out there and if he he thinks he will cheat he may be thinging of it stay away. and same if you are older same you do not need to get hurt. Really think about you ok let me know ann692004@yahoo.ca ok
2006-06-25 02:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by sandy36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes call Jerry Springer quick and get yourselves booked. You sound very immature
2006-06-25 02:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably couldn't find a girlfriend so he came back to you.
tell him you want to be friends for six months.
that should give you both time to see if the other is serious.
2006-06-25 02:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋