My sister is a drug addict. She's done everything you can think of but the main problem is the Coke and Ecstasy. She promised she'd go to rehab and my mother found her one. But she changed her mind and took off tonight. I don't know what I should do. She's going to end up dead. Please any advice you can give me. She's 19 so I can't force her to go but she does so much I just know she will die from it. Any Advice you can give me about what I should do or anything would be very appreciated. Thank you.
2006-06-24 18:46:35 · 15 answers · asked by korngoddess1027 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yor can't force an adult to do anything.
2006-06-24 18:50:58 · update #1
Maybe you should report her to the local police for possession. I know this sounds harsh...but she would be force to stay clean one way or the other (at least for a while which may be long enough for you to get her some serious help) Good luck.
2006-06-24 18:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by formerlypth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you call the cops she'll forever feel like you betrayed her. That's not the answer.
Coke is highly addictive. There is also the appeal of the fast crowd.
What your sister needs is a change of scenery in a big way. She will need help geting past the physical addiction. That's the easy part however. It's the lifestyle that's more difficult. Until she wants to quit she'll find drugs anywhere she goes. So the change of scenery is also a whole new lifestyle. She's not going to go for knitting or other bland life as an alterate to raves and partying.
So the question is what will interest her enough to give her time and distance from the lifestyle where she is using Coke and X. Maybe it's a guy that interests her enough. Maybe it's an extreme sport, music, the military, having a child, a volenteer at a peace org. Something that pulls her up out of it to give her a perspective. Remember she has to want to quit. The only way to help her until she honestly wants to quit is to distract her.
Remember she may continue to party even if she quits the Coke and the X. What she can't do is run with crowds that do that. No matter how much you want to quit if your around it all the time it's really hard to resist. Not until you have perspective, for many it's a life changing event, until then you get in the circumstances, around the crowd you'll use.
Most rehabs are a joke. I went into one at 18 to avoid jail. I was doing more drugs in the rehab than I was on the streets. I remember sitting there with all these uptight people who never smoked a j in thier life trying to tell me about how evil this or that was. Most of it was pure bull. The authoritarian treatment just played into my rebeliousness making drug use all the more attractive. Come off authoritative and you'll push her right away.
So the plan I would suggest would have these elements.
1. Interest that would take place of partying.
2. New location.
3. New crowd.
4. Don't try Disneyland. She isn't going to buy being ms Goody twoshoes. You might like her new crowd no more than the current one. The key is that its not one that's going have her doing X and Coke or other problem drugs like crack and Meth. If they smoke weed who cares.
5. Somebody she respects to help her thorugh the initial phase. Emphisis on who SHE respects.
Good luck with things.
2006-06-25 15:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by draciron 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to learn of your family's problem. I have a brother who was a drug addict for 35 years. Finally he was arrested for pushing Cocaine. He went to jail for 6 months and requested to be sent to a Christian rehab. The judge sentenced him to 6 more months in jail and 18 months in rehab. While in the rehab he stopped smoking, turned his life over to Jesus and came out a different person. We all have choices and at this time your sister has made the wrong one. PRAY FOR HER. The best thing for her, would be to get caught and arrested. Never enable her by giving her money or shelter. She must have professional help.
2006-06-25 01:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you know where she is and can communicate with her, there's not much you can do. If you do know where she is, try calling her and seeing if she's willing to talk to you. If she is, just say you wanted to be reassured that she's OK, because you are terribly worried about her. Don't say things like "you are killing yourself," in case she is feeling sufficiently destructive to think that's a good thing. And don't say "you are breaking your mother's heart" for the same reason. Just that you were worried. And please, will she keep in touch with you, so you won't worry quite so bad. If she wants to rant, let her. Be sympathetic. If she regrets running off, tell her you think the rehab would probably still take her, and to please come home.
Now, there's one thing you must NOT do. You must not give her money or allow her to rob you for money to buy the drugs.
2006-06-25 01:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to help your sister I would call the police. I know it's probably not something that you really want to do....but it will get her the help that she needs. Your sister really needs help and if she gets arrested than they will put her in a rehab that she cannot leave. If you really truely love your sister and want to help her then that's what you are going to have to do because obviously right now your sister can't help herself so she needs your help. Sorry to have to tell you this but it's the truth. I know it will be hard for all of you...but it's the best thing for your sister to get her the help that she needs to get her life straightened out. Good luck to you and your sister!!!!
2006-06-25 01:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by myhopelesslyshatteredheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok , u could call the rehab center take her down there or get the cops to, it mite be rough but god bless
2006-06-25 01:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by ♥.:ily:.♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is the saddest thing I heard tonight....if I were you I'll go out and try to find her, tell her how much her family loves her, and somehow try to convince her to go to rehab......
2006-06-25 01:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ron T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tried everything you can you should pray and ask GOD if you really love youre sister try it, it would'nt hurt to try.GOD hears all our prayers big or small. I know by experince. Just try it talk to him like you would a person. BEST LUCK TO YOU AND YOURE SISTER
2006-06-25 01:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by dorian h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this really hits close to home
last december my sister died
she had hepatitis c and she got pneumonia
having hepatitis c, just the common cold can kill you
it sucks
GET YOUR SISTER HELP IMMEDIATELY
even if it isn't pretty
believe me you'll regret it and trying to learn from a regret like that is horrible
i miss my sister like crazy and it sucks
do what you know you should do get her help
2006-06-25 02:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by McAnswer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to force her to go before it is too late find her and take her in.. She needs God.
2006-06-25 01:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋