who should be the right person to lose my virginity with?

Question

my best friend (guy) my b/f or my ex

Answer 1

Your future husband. Sex outside of marriage, even "safe" sex, is like playing russian roulette with your life.

While using a condom, you can still become pregnant. Condoms have an annual contraceptive failure rate of 18.4 percent for girls under age 18.

Venereal diseases frequently spread through “skin to skin” contact even when condoms are used. This can happen because the bacterial or viral germs that cause many serious STDs (such as human papilloma virus, chlamydia, herpes and syphilis) do not infect just one place on your body. They may infect anywhere in the male or female genital areas. So even if the virus or bacteria doesn’t get through the condom itself, you can still get a disease, because condoms don’t cover all areas necessary to prevent infection during sexual contact.

Latex condoms have tiny intrinsic holes called “voids.” The AIDS virus is 50 times smaller than these tiny holes which makes it easy for the virus to pass through them, about as easy as a dime passing through a basketball hoop.

EDIT: To the person who called me a conspiracy theorist with false condom statistics, you should go to http://www.lovematters.com and see the documentation from experts supporting what I'm saying. The fact about condoms' voids came from Dr. C. M. Roland, editor of Rubber Chemistry and Technology, letter to the editor, The Washington Times, 4/22/92, p. G-2. To the person who called me a conspiracy theorist: are you a doctor, or an expert on rubber chemistry? I didn't think so.

Here are a couple other expert opinions:
“Simply put, condoms fail. And condoms fail at a rate unacceptable for me as a physician to endorse them as a strategy to be promoted as meaningful AIDS protection.”
– Dr. Robert Renfield, chief of retro-viral research, Walter Reed Army Institute

Source: “Condom ‘Cure’ Questioned by Top AIDS Researcher,” Russell Shaw,Our Sunday Visitor,1/23/94

“Saying that the use of condoms is ‘safe sex’ is in fact playing Russian roulette. A lot of people will die in this dangerous game.”
– Dr. Teresa Crenshaw, member of the U.S. Presidential AIDS Commission and past president of the American Association of Sex Educators

Source: “Condoms: Experts Fear False Sense of Security,” The New York Times, 8/18/87.

Answer 2

None necessarily. The only one you should lose your virginity to is someone you love and only when you are absolutely ready to do it. Too many girls are rushing into having sex cause they think its cool. But trust me, any guy worth being with will be more than willing to wait til you are ready! (Even if you won't be ready til marriage!) Don't do anything hasty, stop and make sure you know what you want. By the way, if you have a boyfriend and are thinking of having sex with your friend or your ex, then maybe you need to break up with your boyfriend.

Answer 3

okay... good advice, except for the conspiracy theorist with the false condom statistics. although the fail rate is probably accurate. not due to any flaw in condoms but because people under the age of 18 either buy the wrong size condoms of puncture them in the process of getting them out of the wrapper. not the point. the point is, first of all, if you dont lose your virginity to your boyfriend, isnt he going to be extraordinarily pissed? which doesnt mean sleep with him, it just means if you choose to sleep with someone else, break up with him first. if you really think youre ready, and its not something you just want to get over with, then its needs to be with someone that you at the very least respect. sex ruins friendships. so dont think you and your best friend are gonna be okay afterwards. sex should be with someone you love. its a goal. i think its probably attainable. i guess the ideal situation is with somone you love, have a good relationship with, and when the physical side of the relationship gets to the point where you cant imagine stopping. thats sort of when you know you are comfortable enough with the person. after that its a question of wisdom and morals. know their history, know your own mind. and for the love of god use protection. you can get pregnant your first time, and 2/5s of the population has a sexually transmitted disease.

Answer 4

Honest advice is to wait until you know the person you're considering is the one you want to remember. Virginity in itself meant little to me, but the intimacy and how you treat sexual relationships has a lot to do with how casually you see your relationships in the future. Its not just about "losing something". Its about being ready..which will happen in time for anyone. Don't stress about it...when you're older you'll realize there isn't any reason to rush.

Other advice, talk about it first, consider protection and be sure each is HIV and disease free. Doesn't sound spontaneous, but its sure a lot better to be realistic and avoid unpleasant things that last a lifetime.

Answer 5

The person who you love and who also loves you and only after you both commit to each other. Psychological a man wants to feel he was the first. It will help your marriage. Regardless of the mess, the feeling of you have saved yourself for him is important to a man.
A man who needs to anchor himself to the bed post raises many questions as to your promiscuity.

Answer 6

just wait...its really not worth loosing in this day and age to your boyfriend, many young guys are still experimenting so he may just take your virginity and run, without regrets-so homegirl really think it over, but if i could do it over againm i'd wait till i had a ring on my finger...don't risk the heartache-good luck!

Answer 7

Your husband.

Answer 8

some that you care about, are a close friend are just some that you trust.

Answer 9

whoeva ur n love wit and u think its the real thing...u dont just think theyre hott!

Answer 10

your husband