What would you do??? I need opinion!!!!!!!?

Question

what would you do if you got dumped my a boy and you cry your self to sleep for 2 weeks at least. Then he wants to go out with your best friend and she likes him. But you told her that ya'll couldnt be best friends anymore cause i dont want to be around him anymore. But he is a player and you dont want to see your best friend get her heart broken like you did cause you all ready know what will happen. he told
her that one reason why he wanted to date her is because he wanted to get back at you. so would you be her best friend still or would you just me there for her still and still be good friends??? I want to be best friends but you dont want him back in your life and dont want to see your best friend go thought bad heart break?????

Answer 1

Hi Tiera, well it sounds like this guy is a real jerk. Not trying to be mean or anything just going by everything you said. Now, as far as your friend goes I believe that you should stick to your guns and be there for her. If you havent done so already, I think you should tell her all about this guy and just prepare her for what you might think will happen. Don't try to make her break up with him per say, but just let her know that you are telling her these things because she is your friend and you dont want to see her hurt. Thats really all you can do at this point. Sometimes in life in order for someone realize what they get themselves into they have to learn the hard way. The only thing you can do is just assure her that you will be there for her no matter what. She will appreciate you more down the road when she realizes she was wrong and you were right. Stick to you guns hun, and dont abandon your friend because this is when she is gonna need you the most. Good luck with everything...........

Answer 2

OK she is still gonna be your best friend no matter don't you dare break that off over a guy. But look shes her own person and if that's what gonna happen you be there for her to pick up the pieces because that's what best friends are for.

Answer 3

One simple answer........If she is a true friend she would not even consider it. There is a rule of girl friends, you don't date someones ex whether it be boyfriend or ex husband....YOU JUST DON"T DO IT. That is breaking all boundaries as a friend.
If she does and gets her heart broken. So be it...you told her and she chose to do it anyway....then she deserves what she gets. If he is doing it to get back at you, then you don't need that type of guy in your life in the 1st place....DUMP THEN BOTH.

Answer 4

well to answer the first part about crying yourslef to sleep...
if your still doing that the best thing to do is to go through all oof your stuff get everything that ever belonged to him or he gave you (ie: stuffed animals presents everything) and thow them all away. then once youve done that get allt he notes and stuff and slowly throw them away. (idk it worked for me)

and about your bff i think the best thing to do is to have a girls night you no nail polish avacado faciels chick flicks popcorn candy u no and then like talk to her or bring up this guy and be like
"you no i still like him, and you no how much he has hurt me. and even though i wont take him back i dont want you to go with him or atleast not untill i am over him and have moved on and untill you absolutly know that he wont do the same thing to you"

or somethign and just explain to her how you feel.

well i hope everything workes out. and trust leaving your friends over a guy is defentaly not the way to go bcuz guys will come and go but your friends last forever.

Answer 5

MOVE ON......if your friend goes out with the loser and she gets burned and comes running back to you for your friendship......you can go three ways......
1. Be the "BEST" Best friend that you really are and be there for her
or 2. DROP BOTH OF THE LOSERS and consider yourself the SMART ONE
3. You can tell the LOSER DUDE who you say is a player, that YOU HAVE MOVED ON and that he will probably get dumped one day too.
STICK TO #2......best move for the moment.... PEACE OUT!!!!

Answer 6

sounds like this guy is a really big jerk. if you still want want to be her best friend, then sit down and talk to her. tell her how you feel and that you don't think he's suitable for her. don't just diss him though, tell her why without calling him names and such. if she still doesn't listen, then let her go out with him. you can still be friends with her without seeing her boyfriend. if/when he does break her heart, just make sure you're there for her to comfort her like a best friend should.

Answer 7

Tell her that what he do to u he will just do it to her,but I was always told a bought lesson is better than a told one.I would stop being her bestfriend because she's not your bestfriend if she'll go with your ex behind your back because bestfriends just don't do skanky thinks like that she's not a true friend if she did something like that because if she'll do something so tiny and mean then she'll do something bigger.

Answer 8

I wouldn't say any thing to any one of them. I would just continue to treat them with kindness and let what ever happen as it may. My uncle ones told me you can kill a person with kindness. They will both see that they were wrong in the end.

Answer 9

Boyfriends come and go..............literally. you can't stop your friend from dating him and if she can't see what he did to you then she deserves what she gets. You just don't want her with him and it's not REALLY for her feelings. you could care less about her heart, you just don't want her getting his lovin'. He is a player if he goes for your friend and you shouldn't be cryin' yourself to sleep over him. Find a new player or stay single.....no rush!!!

Answer 10

Hey if you're good friends she will have to trust you. Or just set him up!!! Tell her all the pain he has put you through. ANd try to be there for her always, and just don't put attention in that stupid.