Both my grandsons are constantly fighting and arguing. I'm at my wits end. I have tried everything I could possibly think of, but nothing seems to work. Does anyone have any ideas what I can try? I really hope so. Thanks!!!
2006-06-24 17:12:15 · 7 answers · asked by yankeechik 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Need more info Grandma......it sounds like you have them a lot....maybe they live with you? Or you watch them while mom/Dad is at work.....I'm not sure what the situation is.
If they live with you or spend a great deal of time with you.....there is a big age difference between these little guys......do they have their own space at your house? I would give the eight year old a place where he has HIS things that the little guys isn't allowed to touch. And maybe a certain amount of time he is allowed to enjoy his own space. Does the older one have friends in your neighborhood? Does he get to go play with the kids?
It kinda sounds like they are together a lot.....could you imagine having someone follow you...copy everything you do....all day long? I know the little guy just wants to be big....just like his brother, but Lordy....I don't want someone on my tail all the time.
If they only come to Grandmas house to visit.....I would say take turns. One visit is for the older, one visit is for the younger and the next is for both. That way you will get to ENJOY the grandkids growing up....rather than play referee all the time. And the kids will get to REALLY enjoy Grandma too. I am sure Mom/Dad don't have the time, patience, and wisdom you have to give them all that you can. As I am sure you know.....it's different when it's someone else’s kid....you can spoil the heck out of them and show them all kinds of things.......that us parents really can't seem to fit into our busy lives of making sure everything is done.
I just thought....maybe they are on a long term vacation with you......... Can you please add a comment so I know how much time and how often the kiddos are with you.....it really will make a difference in the answer.
2006-06-29 18:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by adnerb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separating them
Give them something else to do all on their own - Read books.
Time out
Tough Love - NO TV/VIDEO GAMES until they behave better.
My 3 kids 14, 11 & 7 yrs dont fight all that much. They just dont LISTEN and are DEFIANT!
We are doing therapy with Juvenile Services.
We are taking a course/class at our local Child & Family Services - Stregenthening Families - 7 weeks - Manage behaviour/improve family communication. etc.
Take them into your Local Mental Health Clinic. Have them do an evaluation on them and your current situation.
This really has OPENED our 11 yr old sons EYES! He thought he was going to have a FUN/EASY summer. News flash: Therapy and classes are his FUN TIMES!!!
FOLLOW THROUGH on all aspects that way they will KNOW you mean BUSINESS!!!
2006-06-24 17:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 4 and 8 one wants to do what the other is doing..can you split them up for a bit if that dont work try putting them in the corner fro a while..make em appologize to each other every time they fight. and if that dont work do like my dad did duct tape them together and just let em fight it out
2006-06-24 17:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having them over night.... just have one at a time. Or tell them you want to love them... not yell at them all the time so.. if you have to yell at them.. you won't be able to have them come over anymore.
That worked with my grandsons who are right now 6 and 9
2006-06-24 17:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bonnie J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate them for a couple of days.
2006-06-24 17:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by dollyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what my mother did was say to us that she would not get involved until blood was drawn or loss of breathing occured. now my bro and i never fight.
2006-06-24 17:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just cause they dont get anofe attention from u
2006-06-24 17:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋