if your father is sick and dying and in pain would it be wrong to hope he dies soon so he isn't in pain?

Question

my father is dying and is always in pain and upset is it wrong to hope he dies soon so he doesn't have to keep going through pain and being upset

Answer 1

I don't necessarily think it's wrong, because it's not like you want him to die, you just don't want him to be in pain anymore. I'm sure that if you had the option for him to be alive and not in pain you'd choose that. I think you're ok.

Answer 2

No, so don't feel guilty thinking that way. I remember when I was fifteen and my mom had been dying from cancer for a year. I begged God to take her, so she wouldn't feel all the hurt anymore. Luckily after I had stopped praying God had taken her. I only shed one tear that night thinking of how wrong it was for me to ask God that. And even though I have spent so many nights crying because of her death. I don't feel guilty for asking God to take her now. Because in my heart the suffering and pain had ended and I would like to think that I had a part in that. Just to know she had left this world in such pain and agony to go to a better place where there was no hurt and no pain, only happiness is what makes me go on each day. So please do not feel guilty about that. Anyone that is willing to let go so their parent doesn't hurt anymore isn't hateful it is done out of the purest love of a child.

Answer 3

No. I'm sure you have mixed emotions right now between loving your father and keeping him with you and hoping that his pain will end. Watching someone suffer is a terrible thing and it is natural to want his suffering to be over. You may want to seek a support group or the help of a psychologist to help you through. Here are some links that may be of help to you:

http://www.cebik.com/tales/terminal.html

http://www.womentodaymagazine.com/fitnesshealth/cancer_care.html

http://ohioline.osu.edu/hyg-fact/5000/5315.html

May the Lord bless and keep you strong through this trying time.

Answer 4

i don't think it's wrong. wouldn't u want the same for urself if u were in pain? he will be in a better place without pain when he goes. i've thought that about my grandpa while he was sick and dieing. i didn't want him in all that pain. no one wants to see a loved one like that. i'm sorry for the pain ur father is in, i know it's hard on u and ur family too.

Answer 5

It is not wrong what so ever for you to think like that. You are just feeling sympathetic for him. I know its hard to let a loved one go but if they are in pain, its better to let them go than to let them suffer just so you can hang on to them a Little longer. I would want it to end so that I wasn't suffering. As long as I had my goodbyes and I love yous out of the way, then the Lord could take me.

Answer 6

not at all. it's so hard with a death of a family member, especially a close one like a father. *hugs* when my grandfather was in the hospital suffering, it was really hard. part of me wanted him to get better and go back home, but the other part of me, a stronger part even, just wanted him to pass because i knew my grandma wouldn't be able to take care of him anymore. if you want him to pass on so he isn't in pain and going to heaven would be better for him, then it isn't wrong at all. it's hard, and i hope you're doing ok. stick close to the rest of your family members and your friends!

Answer 7

rather than WANT him to die or HOPE that he dies..Pray that his pain eases, that he rests, that he will be relieved of all pain and fear. I recently lost my Mom of 63 to a freak accidental surgery, it left her in pain and on a kidnet machine.....after her body shut down, she was on a breathing machine with tears of pain for the 14 days she was in the hospital...my two brothers and I had to make the decision of pulling the plug...the pain was unbearable and the pain left with out decision....hardest thing we ever have done....I am not a Bible Thumper....but you have to believe in something in your time of grief! I'm sorry for you...

Answer 8

How could it be wrong to wish the best for him? I'm sorry your dad is dying. Hang in there and don't feel guilty for that. It's the most natural thing to feel.

Answer 9

no i think it is normal for you to think this and it is not that you want him to die you just dont want him to suffer anymore my mother died of cancer when i was 25 and she was miserable and i didnt hope that she would die but yes i thought it was the best thing for her was to go she could no longer enjoy life and she was in terrible pain and her life was comming to an end and it was time i believe that if you cant enjoy life and it is painful for you and you have to struggle its not worth living

Answer 10

Nothing. Your not wishing he was dead for selfish reasons. Your wishing he would stop hurting and the only way you know that will happen now, is for the end to come. Its a sad situation; so don't let this make you feel guilty.