How can I find purpose in life after learning that my friend comited suicide?

Question

I know Pain,abuse ,going trought divorse ,not been able to have my own childrens (Tumor Related surgicaly removment of both my ovaries and tubes due to the risk of cancer) and other health issues.I know the feeling of wanting to give everything up including life.I actually even have not only comtemplate suicide my self in the past but have attempted to kill my self ,but God protected me and save my life many time.why now my friend is dead and I am alive.We both sufered with depression. I fear that could it be me.why I survive depression and she did not.why she left without saying goodbye.Were is God in all of this,who am I and why I am hear.were she went -

Answer 1

Maybe she wasn't a quitter.

Answer 2

This is so painful to read. I'm sorry that you have gone through all these things. Many people go through life not knowing there purpose. But there are many that you do every day. Just getting someone to smile, doing something out of the kindness of your heart! I am 47 and still don't know what I want to be when I grow up! Well I did the grow up part, But haven't figured out the rest! Maybe in time. Your not a murderer or a child molester right? Well your here for a reason! Don't give up! Please find someone to talk to. But don't dwell on your friend,Think of all the good times. Good luck. and my thoughts are with you!

Answer 3

It sounds like you've had a rough time of things, and I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Listen, though... life IS worth living. You said yourself that God protected you, even when it was from yourself. While it's terrible that your friend is gone, YOU are still here. That means that your purpose in life hasn't been fulfilled yet. God still has some special job for you to do, some special person to influence, some special task that only you can finish. Hang on and take life one day at a time. Sooner or later, you'll find that purpose God has set for you, and through it you will come to know happiness again.

As for why you lived while your friend did not, I'd suggest taking a look at the book of Job. Job was a truly righteous man who wouldn't hurt a fly, and yet God allowed his life to become a living hell. Job, who was angry for obvious reasons, demanded to know why fate had been so cruel to him. In the end, he came to realize that sometimes humans can't comprehend the actions of God. There are times when we simply have to have faith that "the Father knows best."

Answer 4

All of us have a purpose in life, we have to find what that purpose is. Living a life of depression is not easy. I've suffered depression for many years. I've tried suicide, however God is not ready for me yet.
I had to pick up the pieces of my life when my 26 y/o son committed suicide. My son left without say goodbye. It's not been an easy road to travel. We have to go on in life no matter what the circumstances are. Read Proverbs 3:5-6

Answer 5

I'm so sorry you lost your friend that way. My closest friend committed suicide three years ago, so I know it's hard. I went into a fairly deep depression for quite a while, but I'm sure it would have been worse if he had not given instructions for me to deliver his eulogy, saying that only I would know what to say. It was a heavy responsibility, but I think it saved me. Maybe you should sit down and write down what you would say if you were speaking at your friend's funeral. Don't consider your words only from a personal point of view, but also from her family's and friends'. What could you say that would comfort them and at the same time pay honest tribute to your friend?
Find someone to talk to. A professional. If you can't afford it, check with your local health department. Sometimes there are counselors who do pro bono (free) work. Consider doing volunteer work at a suicide hotline. You have the kind of experience that could speak to someone considering the same decision. Or volunteer for a local Meals on Wheels program. If you reach out to other people, it helps keep you from focusing on your feelings and gives you the kind of gratification that makes life good again.
Hang in there. Life is worth it. Feel free to IM me on yahoo as bikerpjb.

Answer 6

This happened to me. A friend committed suicide... There is no grief like suicide. The good news that there is grief support for suicide.
And each day the pain get lighter...

Once a year I go to her grave site and I leave a flower or a poem..

You will get better..
When my friend took her life...it made me wonder if I would do this... all of her friends wondered....

You will enjoy life again..

Your friend is in heaven and she doesn't want you sad...

1. try to walk every day.
2. every day write down 10 things you are grafeful for
3. write down 10 things you fear...(watch them disappear)
4. Find a grief support counsler (who has experience with suicide support) in your town..do it today...
5. Remember suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem,
6. Love yourself
7. Find your higher power..God and ask God to help you...do it daily.
8. I felt guilty that I could have stopped her..I now know I could not have stopped her....
9. check out this website..to help you understand
www.suicidology.org
10. Repeat after me...... I Will Never Give Up.....say it ten times a day...
11. Be gentle with thyself....and smile..

Each day the pain will lessen... You will find Joy again..

Answer 7

hi there, My name is Tina and I'm a cancer survivor who now has an ovarian mass and tongue cancer. I know how you feel, I have other health stuff going on too. Many times I've felt so awful mentally and physically I wanted to die, I even went so far as to think of ways to do it too but I realized I didn't come this far in life to give up, I don't give up on others so why would I give up on me? I think because you and I both know all the pain and suffering we have a purpose to fulfill. My best friend died of cancer while I'm here and lived, I ask why too as she had so much to live for and was so healthy. I'm not healthy yet I'm here...I have lymphedema one of the side effects from cancer.

I think your purpose here is to talk to others in the same condition and state you are in and help them. That's what I have done, I started a support group and it is very rewarding. We know first hand how others feel, how we feel, how we felt in the past, and I think it's our purpose to help them out of the pain and feelings we have been in and are in. When you help people, you help yourself too because it's a good feeling to have a purpose.

Maybe God guided you to the answers page tonight for running into me? running into others who will answer too.

Answer 8

I'm sorry for lose and your friend, but pull yourself together. Maybe you can help others facing the same issues. Find a research group doing a study, and volunteer to participate in a study..Learn to make better choices. Do you want to put others through what you are going through? Don't hurt yourself and the ones close to you.

Answer 9

U need to be closer to God =]
Pray, read the Bible, and love the Lord and Jesus.
trust me he saved my life and has helped me always.
be strong and dont kill urself hun, remember killing urself is a sin which God does not like so Pray and Believe and ur life will turn into a miracle =] just be strong
hope this helps

Answer 10

Life has meaning even in death. God is merciful and only he really knows what is good for us. Please talk to a pastor/priest of your choice. Please do not think about suicide. Think about the good times your and your friend had. Pay tribute to her memory by living life to the fullest. Remember that even though your dearest friend is not with you physically, she will remain in your heart for always. God will not abandon you in this your moment of need. I pray for you and hope that these few humble words will bring you consolation. May God bless you .....

Answer 11

Im so sorry about your friend and about your other problems, it's natural to feel so low, but why don't you try looking at what you have got , not what you havn't got, look at what you havn't lost, not what you have lost, start thinking more positive, life is a challenge , more so for others, so let it make you a stronger person not a weaker one,, take care.. :)