My parents always argue non-stop (not evryday ofcoz) but when they argue it will be BIG. Once, my dad even told my mum that 1 day without doubt, she'll become a widow. The fight was that big. My dad is so sentimental and sensitive that they can even fight over FOOD?! lmao.
But what should i do???
2006-06-24 16:17:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do to convince them personally that they need to stop fighting. What you could do for yourself is to see a school counselor and see if that person can give you some coping skills.
If you have a close relationship with one parent or the other, you might want to have a serious heart-to-heart talk with that parent.
I know how difficult it can be to deal with that (I left home at 17 to get away from it myself). Hang in there.
2006-06-24 16:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Amen to biker...and I'll add my two cents by making sure you are not in some way blaming yourself for these arguments...it is the relationship between them that is having issues, it does not mean that the relationship each has with you has anything to do with it.
This is a difficult part of co-existing, and unfortunately, home is where most deal with individuals and their personas on intimate levels...do sit down in a calm time & explain your feelings, because, as a part of that home, you count just as much as anyone else...but also have understanding in the fact that you really don't have the whole story behind their fighting...marital difficulties surely exist that you don't have the background to fully comprehend at this time...and blessed be, it would be nice to hope you never will. Be the wiser...wisdom has no age...learn from what you see & let it make YOU a better person...later, your choices may even provide them a better example...a great case of role reversal!
Best to you!
2006-06-24 23:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by msE758 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime when everyone is calm, ask them if they realize how their fighting troubles you. It could be that they are so absorbed in their friction that they really have no idea it effects you at all. Suggest something fun -- something as simple as a board game -- that you could all do together once in a while. Just the fact that you bring up the subject may help them realize that you are much more mature than they thought.
2006-06-24 23:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're probably fighting about something else -a bigger problem, and these "little" pointless fights are just their way of avoiding the real issues. You should remind them that they're adults and their behavior is really affecting you. Maybe if you show concern, they will see how they're acting. Good Luck
2006-06-24 23:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by splashy451 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU should sit them down and have a family talk about how much this is stressing you out and ask them why they fight so much.. Maybe a little break from each other will do them both some good...
2006-06-25 00:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Melinda T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give them the exact same response every time they get into it...think polite but firm and honest. something like, "OK! Well, I'm leaving now because you two are making my life miserable." and then go hide out in your room or go to a neighbor's. watch your tone of voice that it sounds kind and not like you're trying to get a piece of the fight, but if every time they get into a screaming match, their kid politely reminds them the exact same thing--you're making me miserable--then maybe it will get through their thick skulls eventually.
good luck, dude, that's just awful you have to go through it. while you're living through it, try to take note of what NOT to do when you're an adult. maybe even journal. best wishes...
2006-06-24 23:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your folks how you feel about their fighting. Sometimes when people have been together for a long time this is how they go about communicating - pretty sad. So see if they'd be interested in going to family counseling - if they won't - check w/ your guidance counselor for counseling for yourself to help you deal w/ it.
2006-06-24 23:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay out of it...with time passing by, they'll calm down...and you'll grow up, and maybe leave the house...just hope for them, they understand each other more...
2006-06-24 23:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by nadhace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been through that, but try to relax and tell them that you fell bad everytime they fight and that it affects u.
2006-06-24 23:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by Gato Volador 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both to grow up and let them know it upsets you when they argue around you!!
2006-06-24 23:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by rayngirl6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋