Yes, it is hard to do. You have to have patience of steal. It gets hard as hell at times but if you truly love the guy any of his "baggage" is worth it. The kids aren't so much the main problem, IT IS THE EX WIFE that is the problem. Let me tell you this, too, as the kids get older it gets tougher. It may not be so bad for you if the mother of his child keeps her mouth shut, her opinions to herself, and doesn't throw the child into the mix of any tension between you and the dad and herself. If the mom/ex is mature, responsible and grown up the situation may not be so bad for you and your boyfriend. Just remember that even if the mom/ex is some kind of crazy psycho it is not the child's fault. Love the child and ignore the mom/ex. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-06-24 16:22:35
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answered by whatshername 5
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In my opinion, dating someone with a child is as hard as a person makes it out to be. For instance; If you were the one with the child, would it be hard for you to date someone without a child? If you like kids, it shouldn't be that hard. The only catch to anything like this is that the parent has rules of his/her own for the child to follow and the child(ren), may feel threatenedby you. They may think you are trying to take the parent away and that could bring a problem between you and your girlfriend/boyfriend. Good luck and take care.
2006-06-24 23:24:55
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answered by joann 1
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I don't date women with children because I do not think that I'm mature enough to handle what could or what might happen. I don't want to inconvience the woman in question so, no matter the situation, I do not date with women with kids. Also, I think that children should come only after the storm(the first few major fights of a relationship). So I would advise you to take my advice: Baby momma drama not only is annoying, it's very enduring on a relationship. It can end great relationships on its own.
2006-06-24 23:18:53
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answered by jajais4u 2
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Think of yourself as dating both of them. Include his daughter in your social plans as often as possible. Let your boyfriend decide when she should be left home with a babysitter.
2006-06-24 23:18:04
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answered by SueInBoston 3
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its not hard to do...but i would not involve the child at first until you know you are gonna stick around...it makes the situation less confusing for the child...
2006-06-24 23:16:44
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answered by shorti 2
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not if you only go around on the weekends he does not have her
2006-06-24 23:16:31
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answered by fanonebrowns 1
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