2006-06-24 16:10:55 · 9 answers · asked by matchcom 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Face up to your fault in creating the baggage, learn from what you did, forgive yourself, then forgive those around you. Don't spend all of your time thinking about things that happened to you in the past. So many people define themselves by "what happened to me." Jesus f'ng Christ! Once you cross a difficult bridge, burn it behind you and move on. The guy who cheated you and stole your fortune and nearly ruined your life is not your enemy. You are your own worst enemy. Just move on. Lessons learned are like bridges burned.
I have close friends who have done something called the Landmark Forum and tell me that it helped them to finally let go of the demons from their past. It is pretty intense and I'm sure some people take it too far. The message, however, seeem orthodox. Rather than take a few baby steps, this program focuses on life transformation. Might be worth looking at.
2006-06-24 16:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has a fair share of baggage and someone who has cut all ties with thier past i can say that i know a bit about such an issue. first, I had to admit my part of the responsibility in whatever past it is i have "packed". Then fogive myself and whoever else that is being lugged around. Mostly, however, i had to pray that God would give me the wisdom and strength to do it. It was because of His grace that i could do it.
2006-06-24 23:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS NOT EASY, YET YOU NEED TO CONCENTRATE ON WHAT YOU WANT, AND DO NOT CONCENTRATE OR FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DON'T WANT,
FORGIVE AND FORGET.. IT IS EASY TO SAY, BUT WHEN YOU STAY WHERE THERE IS CONSTANT, (whatever you don't want anymore) YOU ARE TRAPPED, SOME OF YOUR PAST MAY HAVE BEEN GOOD, SO BE FAIR, TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS, BUT IF YOU ARE WALKIING AWAY FROM A BAD RELATIONSHIP, THAT KEEPS HURTING YOU.. RUN,, IF YOU ARE WALKING AWAY FROM DRUG ABUSE/ALCOHOL /OR HUMAN ABUSE, WHETHER YOU WERE THE ABUSED, OR ABUSER, THEN MAKE SPECIFIC GOALS, AND TAKE ONE AT A TIME, PRAY FOR GUIDANCE, AND EXPECT IT, AND IT WILL COME,,,FOLLOW AND LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE MADE GOOD CHOICES, LISTEN, LISTEN LISTEN TO THE ADVICE OF THOSE WHO HAVE ACCOMPLISHED WHAT YOU WANT,,, AND FOR GOODNESS SAKE, DON'T TAKE ADVICE FROM ANYONE WHO IS IN A MESS, AND WORSE OFF THAN YOU
GOOD LUCK ,,JUST TELL ALL CONCERNED YOU ARE IN NEED OF CHANGE FOR THE BETTTER, AND THAT YOU NEED ONLY TO GO FORWARD,
2006-06-24 23:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time, everyone at thier own pace. You learn to love yourself by being with yourself (alone). Take time to smell roses you planted and nurtured before the bagage. It will disappear as life goes on. Tell yourself you are better than the burdens and eventually they will be left behind and you won't realize you are not carrying them. It will be noticed when you least expect and it feels great.
2006-06-24 23:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by s m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't... Not only will it follow you, but it defines you... Who you are on the inside comes out in your actions... Just make ammends and move on....
2006-06-24 23:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by dudeabides 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold turkey-just move, and don't ask and don't tell anyone from your past.
2006-06-24 23:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by The Riddler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You can only rewrite the prevalent story.
2006-06-24 23:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away and start fresh.
2006-06-24 23:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jayme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
therapy.
2006-06-24 23:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by ludasfavoritecherrypie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋