What should I do!!!
2006-06-24 15:42:42 · 30 answers · asked by Caitlin S. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
caitlin listen up if you hear what im saying you will not have to go thru the pain of growing up and having to figure out why boys ( i stress boys at this point because thats what they are) this boy in perticular treats you like he does, you cant change him or any boy that will walk on your heart and your feelings like its a dammed door mat, there is no figureing these type of people out, never, those people are enigma's, look that word up, and they will always be untill a judge orders them to pay child support you dont need that later on in your life, you'll understand that sometimes the best answer is no answer, just like having a boyfriend that will treat you like shitt one minute and like a princess the next, your better off being yourself and having fun growing up and experiencing joy in your life instead of manufacturing heart ache with this boy, lose this bad habbit you are teaching yourself that second best is ok, take him back again and prepair to lose time and time again and be second best the rest of your life, not that life is a bed of roses but that you are a better person and a smarter person than to let people like him (this boy) or any person treat or talk to you in a disrespecting way, teach yourself (and i mean teach yourself) learn it, to be above and beyond petty people like that, for they want you to be beaten down and second best your heart and feeling the rest of your life, they dont care enough about you to even have second thoughts of doing that to you(you still listening), you have a bright and loving future ahead of you, enjoy your growing up, you will have pleanty of experiencs to grow from, let this be one of them, and kick this boy to the curb, are you still listening, like a cancer that keeps coming back you kill your self respect and make your heart smaller everytime you let this boy or any person bring you down, rather it be your own doing or their posion making your life difficult and less than it can be, change yourself to what you want and desire in your life and people you want in your life will come to you, keep doing what you have always done because its easy and simple and you and your life will never(never) change and continue to be a struggle, so chose to learn and teach yourself what you want and desire and answers will come to you before you even know the question, say good bye and good luck to this boy and chose to have joy in your life not because its easy and simple but because you chose to and that is the first step in learning why? once again enjoy your growing up it gets better once your done, HAND have a nice day!!!
2006-06-24 16:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by texasbar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who do you love more, you or him? I hope you answered yourself. Do yourself a favour and dump him now. This isn't really love, you just want him because you can't really have him. There are plenty of fish in the sea, find one who will make you happy instead of miserable and I'm sure you are miserable when he dumps you. Dump him, and you will be surprised at how great you will feel.
What he's doing is a form of abuse, (emotional). Would you allow him to beat you? Would you allow him to call you a names or tell you that you are stupid? Don't keep letting him do this to you because it will only escalate to something worse.
Get some self esteem and don't let anyone control you. I would say you deserve better but you only deserve what you allow, good or bad.
Good Luck
2006-06-24 15:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ladies, if you want a classic example of why there are so many dogs and jerks out there. read this post. As long as a dude can hump and dump a girl and she keeps crawling back for more. why should he respect her? She can not even respect herself. Guys will come to EXPECT it from EVERY GIRL they meet.
Now, to the poster. What will it take for you to see that you are being played like a rock god does his axe up on stage? What if he smashed your car every other week and expected you to repair it so he could do the same again? Do you let him and gladly spend the money? what if he hit you up for cash every payday and then blew it on his buddies and other girls? do you allow that? What if every time you went out to eat, he help himself to half of your meal without sharing his. Do you allow that? How much disrespect do you need to get to see you are disrespected? I think you are just afraid that if you let him walk. It might be some time before anyone else comes along. But if you don't stand up now, when you finally do, the chances are you will get another just like him. the word will be out. "Treat that b**** any way you damn well please. She don't care"
2006-06-24 16:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u should do is work hard at being strong, why are u letting him continue to hurt u, how can that be a good relationship?
U said u love him but u didn't mention he love u, just that he keeps dumping u, thats speaks for itself (dumping) it's like he taking a crap on you, because ur allowing it
STOP LETTING HIM DO THIS TO YOU, HE'S NOT WORTH IT AND U CAN DO MUCH BETTER
2006-06-24 15:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had that problem...feel for ya girl! Matter of fact my boyfriend I am with now has actually dumped me 3 times..I always tell him he is my drug cause I know he's bad for me but I keep wanting him...But eventually you will get tired of playing the game..(My last boyfreind couldn't decide if he wanted to be with me or not either) I eventually I got tired and relized even though I loved him..there was no trust left.. good luck.
2006-06-24 15:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's time for u to drop him to the curve, b/c he's going to continue doing the same thing knowing u going take him back. even though u love this guy so much, u cant settle yourself for less u deserve better. and he's not the one. so the next time he breaks up wit u and then comes back asking u to take him back. **** wit his head,(like tell him that u need to think about it knowing that u don't want him, but just have him waiting). then in a couple of days or a week meet up wit him in public and that's when u let him know it ain't going to work (just embarrass him)
2006-06-24 16:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by ladyparadise_69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man Same situation right now! All i can say is do what you feel is right. If you think he's worth the chance then back your feelings up 100%......But you have to make sure your not a rebound Girl, And play hard to get sometimes make sure he's workin for what you have to offer!
2006-06-24 15:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by blondiechick033 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you get dumped, go out and meet someone who is not an idiot. You're better than that, so see how you feel about him when you've got less of your own self-worth invested in him.
Basically dump that zero and get yourself a hero...
2006-06-24 15:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as long as you take him back no matter how many times he "dumps you" he will keep using you.
You may "love" him, but honey, this doesn't sound like the kind of "love" you need.
2006-06-24 15:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by cjs702002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a match made in heaven. I'm so jealous. I wish I could be treated so nicely. And I'm a really sarcastic jerk.
Wise up and move on.
2006-06-24 15:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋