1: is it wrong to hate a member of your fam ?( because when you are left as an only child because your dad has a drinking and drug problem ! )
2006-06-24 15:06:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO its not wrong at all. Its unfortunate but its not at all wrong . You cant help what you feel and everyone is different. Also remember if someone has a drinking and drug problem understand its something there going through they got caught up . Don't hate them hate what they do. There's a inner them wanting to come out but the substance takes control. But good luck. If you cant make amends remember its okay. Also don't be mad because your an only child just remember everything happens for a reason. Look to the sky !
2006-06-24 15:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by kdizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you feel the way you do. Just don't let the hate hurt you ! Be aware of the damage it can cause you personally, if at all possible do something constructive with your feelings, like helping others with the same situation. Sit down and write a letter to your father, telling him exactly how he makes you feel get it all off your chest, you don't even have to send it. Just don't hold it in !!
Be the best you can be! My heart goes out to you !!!
2006-06-24 15:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by amom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have a similar problem that I battle. The answer is love regardless because God and Jesus loves you and we sin so bad: robbing killing lying. And he still gives us the breath of life. I know it gets hard I just love from a distant but I don't hate her for when she says things about me because when you want to be happy you remove negative thoughts. If you dwell on this situation you wont learn to let it go. that's when depression begins. Continue to learn from others mistake so you benefit from life
2006-06-24 15:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think its hate sweety, but I know it HURTS really bad and that can make it feel very much like you hate someone. TRUST me to tell you if you don't try to forgive him and he passes away you will have the WORST guilt. What you do have to TRY to remember is that drinking and drugs are both ILLNESSES. IT IS NOT YOU, SAY this again and again not till u can say it but till u BELIEVE it. Maybe it would also help if u go to Alateen Im sure theirs one in your city they've made pretty sure they are in every state.
2006-06-24 16:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Angel B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is completely natural to feel angry in a situation like yours. Just remember that his problems are not your fault so try very hard to keep the faith and be positive. Don't let his actions be responsible for taking any good qualities away from you.
Take Care, and keep your head up!
2006-06-24 15:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by freefloatingelectron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not hate. It's all natural. I mean you will only know that if that person dies, and you cry and want to take all back what you said, you love that person deep inside, but can't really figure it out since you feel left out.
2006-06-24 15:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by JOLIE69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think that its wrong but i also dont think that its right to blame it on some oneelse in the fam
2006-06-24 19:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong. It's perfectly normal. I haven't talked to a few of my relatives since '03, and I don't ever plan to.
2006-06-24 15:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by Psychology 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not that you hate them, it that you dislike what they have done to you. Me It just do not know all my family so that is why I do not talk to them but for small family outings.
2006-06-24 15:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by audi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like some members of my family and some of them don't like me.
LC
2006-06-24 15:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by littlebit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋