how do u tell your dad that u got raped by your step dad?

Question

i tried to tell my dad but i dont know how

my mom doesnt care if i get raped she somtimes watches or helps him

Answer 1

Simple.
"dad, i got raped by my step dad."

Answer 2

Invite your dad to a dinner just for you 2. Tell him you need to discuss something important. Let him know everything that has been done to you, even the part where your mother helps. You need to call the law and have something done. To many people are getting by with rape these days. Everyone should do what the can to stop it. Your mother needs help cause she should never permit it to happen in the first place. I would hurt someone who tried that with my daughter. It is wrong. Please get help. Before something terrible happens. You would not want a baby from a rapist.

Answer 3

First off you must call the POLICE and have this man reported. A call to Childrens Protective Services needs to be done as well. Tell your DAD today. You'll see how quickly the tables will turn. If your OWN mother is helping in this definately tell your biological DAD. He'll call the authorities and these two people will be prosecuted.

Answer 4

First, this is not your fault. NOT YOUR FAULT. I can't emphasize this enough as a fellow victim of sexual abuse at the hands of someone who was supposed to protect me.

Second, I know this is hard. I was abused at a very young age and over an extended period of time and was silent about it for almost 10 years after it happened before I told my parents about what had happened. For me, this was a tremendous load off of my mind. Be prepared for the fact that this is probably going to shock the hell out of him. If his initial reaction is not as supportive as it ought to be, please forgive him, parents are not generally equipped to deal with this sort of crisis. (Later tonight, he may be posting the question "My daughter just told me that she was raped by my wife's new husband, what should I do?" on this website).

I hope he can give you the support and love that you need and deserve.

It is imperative that you leave the environment you are in. I don't know what your situation is, but hopefully your father can take you.

I know this next part can be hard, but prosecuting your step-dad and possibly your mother is important. Even if you escape this situation and these attacks stop for you, prosecuting them may stop them from hurting other people, maybe your brothers or sisters or friends.

If your father can't accept what you are telling him, consider speaking to a friend or friend's parents, religious leader, or police officer.

Be brave. Life goes on. Despite my serious and extensive abuse, I am at peace and live a happy and normal adult life.

Be safe, I am praying for you, and your family.

Answer 5

First of all how old are you? You should report him to the Police.
What ever you do, don't say that you have been raped if it's not true. You will ruin someone Else's life. If it is indeed true, report him to the police & then tell your Dad. I am a Mother of 2 grown children. So believe me I know alot about this subject.

Answer 6

If you feel uncomfortable telling your Dad or do not know how, please go to a teacher, coach, counselor, church, or abuse hot line. They all are responsible for helping you get help in this situation. Please do not let this go untold. You need to be assured of safety. You are worth alot more than to be put in this situation again. You must put a stop to the sick behavior of your step dad and your Mom. You may still love your Mom, but you must realize that she has a problem and also needs help if she is allowing this to happen. The only way to help yourself and this situation is to tell someone. Don't be afraid, there are good people out there, ready to help you and care for you.

Answer 7

There is nothing to be scared of. You can't let anyone control you in those perverted ways. You are the only one who can stop this and you have to speak up. Maybe you should write it down in a letter to your dad, but realize that he will want to talk to you about this. Just remember that it isn't your fault, but you can do something to change things. Be brave and things will work out for you. Have some faith and speak out. By the way, you asking such a question on here tells me that you are trying to reach out and that's a great first step!

Answer 8

If you are being abused by your stepfather, then of course go to the police, your parents or a relative. Now I just read meflaps r le reply to you regarding an abusive boyfriend and finding you father. If you are lying and making up these dramatic stories, honey, you need some big help. You could be a very dangerous person the way you can accuse people of crimes. Who are you and what are you doing??? How old are you??? You sound to be 13 yo.

Answer 9

Hey,

This is a very serious issue that needs to be taken up with not only your parents but authority. You need to be open and honest with your dad sit him down and explained how it happened. He might be rageing with anger but that's okay he has ever right toRemeber hes not mad at u its the guy . Just be open and honest he will know your pain. Make sure your not around to many people like in public. But you should also tell you mother .. she should not be around a guy like that nor should you. Please for your safety tell your parents A.S.A.P.. don't be sacred of what can happen to your step-dad he deserves every bite of what happens to him. ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE UNDER AGE. Keep ur head to the sky !

Answer 10

Well sweetheart, I can relate it is vary hard to do such a thing cause you feel like you are breaking his heart but you have to do it gently and slowly, but you have to understand that it must be done, even with your fear that your dad may go shoot your step dad in the head he will understand he is your father and one more important thing you must remember always what your step dad did to you is not your fault it took me along time to get over thinking that it was my fault but the fact is that your step dad is a very sick man and should get some help even if it is in prison (he married your mom not you)

Answer 11

Call the police. Your mother is so careless about you and your stepdad- go to the police but before that tel your dad. If not write him a letter or email him or ask a trusted friend or an adult to say it to him for you. I hope it helps. Your in major situation. You can't ruin yourself. You are precious don't ruin yourself like this. For you own sake it is important. Get them both in jail. This is not something you should stay quiet about. But you are innocent. Nothing is your fault. Don't stay quiet about this. Your step dad is a freak!