Why abortion over adoption?

Question

Just curious. I always hear this on the news and the media selects the answers they want to relay. I want to know. I'm not aborting my child or giving mine up for adoption. But why do some? Please tell me.

Answer 1

I wondered the same thing and aksed about it and what I got out of the answers that I received was that there is so much misinformation out there. One actually thought that an infant given up for adoption would end up bouncing around in foster care. Wow! I wish that were true when I was searching for a child that age through the foster care system.
I still can't understand why they abort rather than give them up for adoption. And I can't understand why a new mother would kill a newborn as long as abortion is legal and they have the safe haven law for abandoning a baby. Not condoning abortion but I'd rather hear of that than to hear of a newborn flushed down a high school toilet.
Sorry to gross you out but these things are happening and it really makes me sad.

Answer 2

When you do some thinking, you can figure it out. But it takes a little thinking, instead of emotional reactions.

If a child is born into a home with poor parents, the child is almost certainly going to be poor as an adult. Very rarely does that change (and often, the child will be a criminal.... not good for the child, family, or society).

If the child is born into a home with parents who aren't ready, things can happen (drugs, the child being taken away, etc).

Have you ever paid attention to adoptions? Why adopt a child out? I wouldn't. It puts too much stress on the child, too much for the child to deal with. Some come through it fine, yeah, but many don't. Most don't, in fact. Moving from foster home to foster home until a family decides they want you... then the family has to get approved (something that sometimes takes years). And what happens as the child grows up, not knowing his parents, not knowing his genes, not knowing what he's prone to, not prone to, what genetic disorders he/she might have, what his mother/father look like, if they love him, if they even care... Imagine what that does to a child.

What happens is that people care so much about being alive, that sometimes they forget that life isn't so great... especially under such grueling circumstances.

I am in no way suggesting abortion is good, or ethical, or right, I will not endorse abortion. I am merely asking the question as to why some people do, instead of giving the child up to adoption. I hope I have answered it well.

Answer 3

I knew someone who chose abortion because she was working 40 hours a week and in college full time and a 17 yr old emancipated minor, the father was her boyfriend of 2 years and she has serious medical problems (lupus).They used protection which failed and after the breakup, the father (15) got addicted to drugs. She knew her boyfriend would not consent to the adoption and did not want to see her child raised by a druggie. Not to mention how physically difficult the pregnancy would have been on her, and likely she would not carry to term.

I support her decision, I have one sister who aborted and one sister who gave up for adoption and the one who aborted does not mourn the loss of her child like my other sister was heartbroken when she did not recieve an invitation to her bio child's graduation. I am not sure I could deal with a life time of wondering if my child is ok, where they are, if they hate me, if they have issues of abandonment, etc.

Answer 4

well, a lot of people don't want to/can't go through the 9 months of pregnancy just to give it up
some people can't afford the prenatal care, while others do not want to live regretting a mistake that they made for 9 months
plus, women who get pregnant and want abortions usually got pregnant in a way that is less than honorable - so an abortion is a quiet way to deal with the matter than having to tell the world "yes, i had a one-night-stand and got knocked up"
sometimes school-aged girls get pregnant and dealing with a pregnancy involves pretty much destroying their whole life (dropping out of school or being sent to remidial school)
also, though it may sound callous - our planet has an overpopulation problem and with enough kids around the globe already needing adoption, adding thousands more isn't improving anyone's lifestyle.
i myself would not get an abortion, but i believe that women have the right to chose whether or not to get one themself.
i also believe that everyone is entitled to a mistake now and again and should not have to live with the consequences all their lives - now this isnt saying that i believe its ok for a woman to have like 5 abortions because she keeps getting unwantedly pregnant, but i could understand someone making one mistake and not wanting it to completely alter their life.
i hope this gave you some alternative ideas to think of.
you shouldn't hate these women or the doctors that help them (not to say that you personally do). in the united states people are allowed personal choices and everyone must deal with these consequences.

Answer 5

Abortion is genocide of the innocent, nothing less. Its murder for the sake of convenience.
Adoption is giving a home and love to a child who has neither. People sometimes give children up for adoption because they know the baby will find a better home because of the mothers young age, financial situation, environment, etc. There are many people on waiting lists who have a lot of love to share with an adoptive child. For whatever reason they are unable to conceive their own.

Answer 6

People would rather abort a child because it will be less painful for the child in the long run

It's VERY damaging to live in an adoption center knowing that your birth parents didn't want you and you're still not wanted. Plus, adoption centers are already overpopulated, dumping a child there would just add to the problem. Also, sometimes, people adopt kids just to get the check that comes with the kid, not because they care about the kid.

Answer 7

sometimes because they love them so much.
Say, there is a 15 year old girl and shes not married.
What kind of a life will that baby have? Wouldn't a loving stable home with a mother and father be better.?
It isn't just her life, but what about the child? Or two tiried old people grandparents who reallydon't want another child to raise take the baby? Would they really be a good home?
Adoption is a very unselfish decision. Two loving people who dearly want a child and can take care of it. While this girl gets her life straighten out and goes to college when she is old enough to care for a child has another. That benefits two people.

Answer 8

I personally dont believe in abortion, if you don't want a child I beleive in adoption becuase it still gives your child a chance to have a life of its own but a close friend of mine chose abortion becuase waiting to have the baby was too much emotionally for her to handle. It really just adds up to personnel strength and beleifs.

Answer 9

I think most women don't want to be seen pregnant and then all of a sudden not have a child, it's easier to abort than adopt.

Answer 10

If someone is pregnant out of wedlock, abortion is a way to hide the fact from parents, friends, and even God. In my eyes that is "two wrongs making a wrong" but to others it is "two wrongs making a right." I don't agree with it and I didn't agree with my friend when she got one to keep her mother from knowing she was sexually active.

By the way, way to go keeping the baby. Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you and the baby!