I have been in a serious relationship for almost 3 years now. It has been amazing and really great until the past month or so. My bf has become rather distant lately and we seem to fight alot. I really dont have a clue what is going on. We got in a big fight tiday and I asked him if he still loved me like he used to and showed him a letter he wrote me not too long ago that was really sweet. He got all teary eyed and told me that he wasn't ready to tell me wat he really needed to tell me...then he left. Whats going on???
2006-06-24 13:48:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We had a major discussion about him seeing other people a few months ago when I found a profile on a dating web site with his pic and email. He deleted it in front of me and He has assured me he isn't cheating. I know all of his friends and they all also assure me that it isn't happening.
We had an argument over several things and about how we were changing, etc...
We also got into it about how I have a higher sex drive than he does....he is irritated by this a bit.
I asked him what was going on and how he really felt about me and our realationship. He told me he loved me but that he couldn't tell me what he really needed to say right now(it was like 9 pm)...he went to bed after that leaving me sitting here wondering what the hell is going on.
2006-06-24 14:25:50 · update #1
Could be one of two things:
He's got a guilty conscience
or
he's considering taking it to the next level
Play it cool, give him his space, and don't start letting your imagination run away with you. You've invested a lot of time in this relationship, and you claim that things have been "great", so give him the benefit of the doubt.
If he has bad news to tell you, listen with an open mind and take some time to absorb the complexity of the situation. Then ask him what his plans are to correct the situation, and what he wants from you. Take your time through the process, it may all work out in the end.
Personally, I'm hoping that it's the second option, and he's just got a case of cold feet. Either way, Good Luck!
2006-06-24 13:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 12⤊ 2⤋
He is seeing someone or likes someone else and not sure about his relationship with you. He is stuck in this relationship and can't tell you or doesn't want to hurt you so he gets stressed out and ends up fighting with you. If you love him, let him go or give some distance and if you are meant to be together forever, then he will come back to you. I know it hurts. It will hurt more if you don't confront him and find out what really is going on. Life goes on, and there are other fish in the ocean. Unfortunately, not a lot of them taste good too.
2006-06-24 20:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by xrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is confused about his relationship because he has met some one else and is torn between the two of you and can't decide which way.My advice lay it on the line and give him an ultimatum if your heart is going to be broken better sooner than later no use pussy footing around the issue.
2006-06-24 21:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's obviously something extremely important he needs to tell you but doesn't have the courage to yet. Sorry, my guess is that he has feelings for someone else but does not want to hurt you. Hopefully, it wouldn't be that but I would brace myself for the worst if he ever does come around to telling you.
2006-06-24 20:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by big_j_gizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time. If really trusts you, he will come to you. Most guys don't like to share their feelings. Just let him know you are there for him.
2006-06-24 20:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by grtddain08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT A GUY, BUT I GOT TO SAY HE'S A KEEPER.
IT WAS GOOD THAT HE DIDN'T ANSWER YOUR ? AND IF YOU JUST FINISH A FIGHT YOU REALLY DON'T WANT HIM TO ANSWER, PEOPLE SAY STUPID THINGS WHEN THEIR MAD OR HURT, GIVE HIM A BREAK TO COLLECT HIS THOUGHTS. I HOPE IT WORKS OUT WITH FOR BOTH OF YOU.
2006-06-24 20:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by Twinkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient. he wil tell you with time. maybe he wants to end the relationship or maybe he has other issues going on in his life....try to communicate with him.. good luck
2006-06-24 20:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready. If you love him, give him time.
2006-06-24 20:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by thelordparadox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋