this girl i know likes me but i told her i am not interested and she keeps wanting to know why. she is good at telling when i am lying. The truth is she is nice and all but she is an ooga monster to be honest. she weights like 175 and it only 5'4". i honestly cant get an erection on an obese girl and my weight limit for girls 5'8" and under is 145. how do i tell her politely she is big? I am also concerned for safety reasons in case she breaks me if she was on top or if i could be raped if i was intoxicated.
2006-06-24 13:46:39 · 13 answers · asked by jesussaves 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well im 6'1" and 184lbs. i think your probably just fat
2006-06-24 13:54:25 · update #1
look, you;'re being silly at the end.
be polite and let her know you are not interested
you don't have to hurt her feelings
2006-06-24 13:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you like her only as a friend and do that nicely. Ignore her politely--be busy and just avoid her. If she hounds you, tell her you are interested in someone else or tell her that if she does not stop harassing you that you will take further action. Sometimes being or looking like the bad guy is a plus.
2006-06-24 21:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth, well.... don't tell her she's to fat for you to get an erection... but be honest. Tell her you're not attracted to her in that way. If she can't understand that then tell her you just want to be friends and leave it at that. If worse comes to worse and you have to tell her the TRUTH to get her off your back, just be nice about it. You DO NOT want to piss a big girl off.
2006-06-24 20:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by TheLizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to get to know this person. She may just need a friend. And I don't believe you are such a gift that she would rape you. Grow-up!
YOUR only concern is that you don't want to be seen in the company of a person with a weight challenge.
I will leave you with this "what you sow, so shall you reap."
2006-06-24 20:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be sensitive and not mean when you tell her you also have to simply explain to her that its a health issue. Tell her you like her but your afraid that she might get a heart attack or something and that you might not want to take the risk of going out with her because you and her will have to go through alot of emotional baggage if something happens to her. Also tell her you don't want her to lose weight for you if she likes the way she is cause she shouldn't change the way she is. (that way she wont try to lose weight and come back to you) But be sensitive and be a good actor if you can't do this your screwed.
2006-06-24 20:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by skilla92100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude thats pretty shallow honestly that girl can do better than you if your going to be like that anyway you need to tell her the truth you dont want to date her cause your a shallow being i am sorry to say it but thats just harsh for to think of her only for her weight
2006-06-24 20:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by mymamarox101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"safety reasons" lol. Man ur hilarious!
But seriously, just tell her this:
"I'm not really interested in you. You're a nice person, but I'm just not attracted to you."
The End. Be Safe! lol
2006-06-24 20:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to get into her weight? Why can't you say that you are not attracted to her in that way but you'd like to be friends. You are not lying and it eases her mind. If you ask me she is way better off without you!!!!!
2006-06-24 20:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by kukkanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, that's tough. If you tell her she's fat and you won't go out with her because of it, her self-esteem would be crushed. I don't know what to tell you....
2006-06-24 20:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by cutiedudie2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is lucky you dont want to date her as you are a reall piece of work! after all you are a drunk and evidently a skinny little wuss if you think you would break .
2006-06-24 20:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by SASSY PJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋