MY FAMILY LOVES MY SIS MORE Than ME???

Question

my family loves janice my sis more than me. When i ask for a outfit they say no the net 2 hours Janice goes and ask they they say why not 5 . I hate it . they only time they know me is when i get good in school Janice is failing yet they still treat her better than me . Why???????????????

she is the oldest

Answer 1

Hey sweety, that is how i feel but that is not true for me!
talk to your parents and tell them! Thats what i did!!

Answer 2

No one understands the workings of a parents mind. I am a middle child and got left out of a lot of things as well. I have an older sister so I got her cast offs and a younger brother. The only time I got new clothes was for the first day of school or birthday/ Christmas. I made the mistake of becoming very introverted. I stayed in my room and read ALOT of fiction novels.

My advice to you is to get involved in a healthy group activity like sports ,local theatre group or volunteer somewhere - read to seniors in Nursing Homes or the Children's ward in local kid's hospitals. Keep up your studies. That is the most important thing of all!! The better your grades the better your chances for a scholarship to the university of your choice. Be true to yourself, be strong even when it hurts to be ignored or put down, always know that you are the best you there is. In 10 years you will look back and see how much stronger you are for what/ how your childhood was.

Answer 3

Janice isn't loved more than you. Parents wanna treat everybody the same. Maybe the reason why they treat you that way is b/c they expect expectations for you than what they want of Janice's.

Answer 4

Family S complicated N ways. I felt like that w/ my folks. U might havta go up N tell them how U feel, I mean a family should B a family, U shouldn't havta feel this way. F they don't know what U'r feel'n then how R they gonna fix U'r problems like a family should? F U want a friend cuzz I know how it feels 2 B N U'r place jus' IM me NE time I'm on, I would B happy 2 make U feel better. I could try 2 make U luagh, N try 2 make U feel better.

Answer 5

I'm not sure, but maybe ur parents have some kind of reason behind what they're doing. Maybe ur sister has a problem, and needs a little special attention. Your parents might be thinking that ur tryin to take advantage of them while they're appeasing ur sister. But the best way to find out is to go up to them, when ur sister's not around, and ask them why they are spoiling her.

Good Luck! :-)

Answer 6

i feel your pain!!! my younger sister gets whatever she asks for. i had a job when i was 14 and have bought everything i need since then. my sister will be 18 this year and still doesn't work or drive. she gets chauffered around as she pleases. she does horribly in school, and just barely graduated high school this month, yet she still gets what she wants. i used to complain constantly to my mother how unfair she is. it just seems to make her angrier. my suggestion is to just ignore this behavior. realize that you will be more independant and mature than your sister. i don't think it's that your family loves her more, per say, its just the way it is sometimes. one day you will grow older and meet someone special that loves you for who you are. until then, keep a smile on your face. :)

Answer 7

My Mother always preferred my older sister to me. That's just the way it is sometimes. I don't know if they feel they are more like the one they love better or what. I know my Mom could only see what I did wrong (and yes I know I did plenty - but I didn't lie about it) and everything my sister did was right. She even asked me to break up with a guy I really liked so my sister could have him. (he didn't want her). The thing I try to remember is that even though she loved her more she still loved me.

Answer 8

ask your parents for some time alone with them and tell them how you feel , sometimes parents prefer the weaker of the sibblings, maybe they feel you are the strongest and can look out for yourself-- (not that , that makes it a good reason)

YOU MIGHT WANT TO SHOW THIS TO YOUR PARENTS TO HELP THEM.

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2002/12/06/earlyshow/living/parenting/main532102.shtml

How to avoid playing favorites

Accept that you are human and that one child may reach you in a way that others don't.


Listen to others who might be trying to tell you that you favor one child over another (your child, your spouse). Let go of defensiveness and hear what they are saying and begin observing yourself for signs of favoritism.

Empathize with your child if they come to you with a favoritism concern. Do not try and defend it. Minimize comparison. Say " I miss spending time with you too. What would you like to do?"


"Love uniquely, not equally" - Don't try to love or treat each child equal to the others. See each child for his/her uniqueness, notice it, and acknowledge it to them. Actively observe your child to identify unique characteristics, skills and interests and reflect these back to your child.

Do not keep a scorecard. For example "I took your sister shopping on Saturday so I am taking you on Sunday." This can do a lot of harm.

Do things that interest each child. Do no take a child shopping if they don't need it or even like it. What you do depends on the uniqueness of the child.

During holidays buy what interests the child, but do not buy one child a $100 gift and the other a $30.


If there is something about a particular child that gets to you - either positively or negatively, think about what this particular characteristic means to you and why you may be responding strongly to it.


Avoid labeling or over-praising each child. For example, rather than saying, "You are my scholar," or "This is wonderful!" describe the specific positive behavior, "Johnny, you spelled all of the words in your homework correctly."


Develop a relationship with each child, spending "alone time" with each.

The more children you have the more complex finding this time becomes. You must make an effort to find unique qualities in each child and spend special time with each child.

Get creative if you have many children - cook with them. "We have a lot of meals to make. Who wants to cook with me Monday, Tuesday, etc." Involve kids in problem solving.


Be careful of "knee jerk" reactions that might repeat patterns of favoritism. Take time to react to think before you react.

Answer 9

Yes the youngest or oldest get the most attention. All the ones in between are dog meat.

Answer 10

hmm im the oldest of 3 so i know your pain.
i would say tell your parents about this.

point out all the things they've been doing for her and not for you.

in this case, communication will get you results.

if you bottle up how you feel inside of you, you'll explode pretty soon.
dont let it happen.

so tell them.