I am divorced and she asked me to move back home with my three children, I pay completely my own way and take care of my kids myself. One is blind the other has serious mental illness. Me and the kids also suffer sever PTSD from their father being a tyrant and very abusive towards me! My mother hurts me when she says such nasty mean remarks!
I never really lived with her when I was a kid because she put me in foster care from age 1 and 1/2 to age seven then back out of the house again when I was 12 till I was a adult.
2006-06-24 13:06:17 · 15 answers · asked by prettylass217 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Please remember the best way to deal with her if you have to live with her is to ignore her or leave the house for a while. My mom is just the same. I actually was in an abusive relationship and had to live with her for 3 months as my new husband and I were relocating wit h our 3 small kids. She was even telling me that I deserve d the abuse I got. She never was really involved in taking care of me when I was younger my father was. SO, I hold a lot of resentment towards her. The best thing I can say is that it's her and not you. That is soooooo important. You'll be thinking I'm sooooo screwed up or your confidence will be low because of what she says. It has nothing to do with you. She gets off putting others down. Preferably the weaker people in her life. Your kids hear everything that she says to you. If she tells you to shut up don't be surprised if your kids go to school shouting the same thing. Don't let your mother damage your kids. See if there are any alternative places you can stay and ask that she respect you in front of your kids. Just project all the love and kindness you can towards your kids so they don't see your moms behavior as the norm. I wish the best for you.
2006-06-24 13:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by JenniferE 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother has some issues she needs to deal with. Mainly how to respect people. Maybe thats a good thing that you didn't live with her....you might have had PTSD from being mentally and verbally abused by her. I'm sorry that happened to you and your kids from their father and what's going on with your mother. Maybe you should think about living somewhere else if she intends to keep talking to you less than a doormat.
Don't let anyone including your mother treat you like a doormat!
Always remember this saying when you or your kids get down!
I'm Special
I'm Loved
and
I'm Important !!!
Let NO person make you feel ANY different!
SmileyCat : )
2006-06-24 13:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by SmileyCat : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom obviously has problems...and I know you may need a place to stay now....but you need support even more, and you are not getting it there. Congrats on getting yourself out of a terrible relationship....but it sounds like you may have gotten yourself into another. Being a single mom is challenging..moreso when your children have special needs. Do you have anyone else you can stay with? Sounds like anywhere would be better than with your mom. Please remember the problems are your moms....there is nothing about you that says you deserve this type of treatment.....and don't let your kids see you being mistreated...they will learn to accept the same...Best of luck to you.
2006-06-24 13:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by loubean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is abusive too, is there no one else that can help you by moving with them,I'm finding out there is more to life then living with a abusive person but it all comes so slow, if she put you in a home then she could not deal with you or something about herself then any more then now by the sounds of it. my husband was abusive and an alcoholic but never will admit it he swears I'm the one with all the problems but leaving him would change my life forever
2006-06-24 13:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look we could go round and round with are mothers.Stop self inflicting more pain on your self things are to hard in your life as it is.Are mothers are were there at in there life,we know how they are get away stand on your own to feet there are people and places to get help in this world stop being scared fear is what stops us all the time.Make today right now no more self infliction be thankful you are able to show and give love to your children somethings are mothers never ever showed us they are your Strength to prove to your self we are better than are mothers they are who they are we are not them.We are us.strong look at the women that had us heartless *** women get strong from from all that anger and hate they live with mine still at 61 years has no regret for nothing she put us though man believe me Drugs,mental abuse,rape of my sister foster homes, jail,abandonment,my mother gave me away at birth to my Great-Grand mother to raise born needing a blood transfusion and a broken hip and sickle-cell she said she took one look at me and she knew she never wanted me you see its them get away and find your happiness they cant give something they don't know how don't blame your self its not you its them. Find your happiness its out there start today as for the men in are life the things they do to us the first time should had been put to a stop but we are always looking for love something we did not get well look its not in them the are mest up too great blind leading the blind your not blind any more now start seeing there ugly masked and you will start running I belive in us.
2006-06-24 14:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Suzy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom has a very bad self-image. She doesn't like herself, so she is taking it out on you and your kids. If at all possible, I would think it best for you to move out. If that isn't possible, try sitting down and asking her why she does that. Maybe she doesn't realize that she is that way. You are doing the best you can, and she needs to respect your feelings.
2006-06-24 13:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by tankgirl190 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either need to move out and take care of your own or send your story to Jerry Springer.
2006-06-24 15:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a victim mentality you will only attract those who will victimize you. Learn that your mother only did what she knew best for you and educate yourself to do better for your kids.
2006-06-24 13:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by John G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u shouldn't pay attention to her and go on with ur life with ur kids u don't have to get mistreated by ur mother too
2006-06-24 13:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dennis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did she say that was nasty?
If she doesn't want to be part of your life, why would you move back with her?
I'd stay away.
2006-06-24 13:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by sideshot72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋