I know my mom doesnt hate me but I definately know she doesnt like me either. I think she just loves me because she has to. I have aasked her to do things with me and she just wont make time but she will take a day off work or move plans around at the drop of a hat to be with my sisters or brother. I love my mom but when my sisters are making fun of me or being rude, she just joins them... they mean it all in good fun but it really hurts me and when I tell them they think im overreacting and just shrug it off. Im not taken seriously by my family. what can I do to earn their respect?
2006-06-24 12:51:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should print out your question and hand it to your mom when the two of you are alone, away from your sisters and tell her you'd like her to answer this question for you.
Good luck.
2006-06-24 12:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The greatest way to earn other's respect is to learn to respect yourself first.
Understand that no other opinion is going to be more important to your growth as a person. Do not allow others to determine your self worth. Just because someone else calls you a name does not mean that you have to embrace it as gospel. No one knows you... better than you.
Decide that you are going to be the best person you can be. If people do things that hurt you... decide that you will never do those things to anyone else. Live your life by the goldent rule. "Do unto others as you would have done to you". It will not necessarily change how others act... at least, not immediately... but eventually they will see the better person that you are, and will want to be more like you.
Remember "A Prophet Hath No Honour in His Own Country". In other words, don't be disappointed if your own family do not see you as the person other people may see you as. While we can choose our friends, we cannot choose our family... and family are going to be there a lot longer. Eventually they will realize that you are maturing into another you and will respond in kind.
Stop letting their words hurt you and cause you to go off into hystronics. When it stops having that effect, it will no longer be fun to do any more and you will find it will stop.
It is all part and parcel of growing up. Have some patience. And work to be the best person you can be. Good karma does eventually come back around.
2006-06-24 20:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep a diary of examples, with dates. I recommend you do it by sending yourself an e-mail, it works as a good time and date marker. Mark down each occasion that you see this happening. Also write down how you were feeling and acting BEFORE the behaviour was demonstrated and mark down how you felt after the action.
Look to see if there is something you were doing - being rude, acting up or being a baby - and see if that brings out bad behaviour in your mom. If not, you have a good diary of things that you need to set a time and place to sit with your mom and discuss.
One very important thing - do not throw all this anger at your Mom - when you sit down with her, see if you can get a responsible adult to be there too - is your dad around?
Do not say you did this and you did that....talk about what you saw and how you felt.
Get some help with this, school counsellor, priest, auntie?
2006-06-24 19:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by MillwoodsGal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction would be to confront my family. Tell them that how they treat you makes you feel like you mean less to them that everyone else in the family does. Joking around with each other, but constant ribbings at your expense with nothing to show they love you after, is just cruel. Family are supposed to love and support you, not cut you down and make you feel bad. Go to the source, they may not realize how bad they are making you feel.
2006-06-24 19:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god, I know what you mean! I feel like mother doesnt like me either and only "loves" me because she has to. I dont think there is much that can be done. they will realize what they did when you move out of the house and get your own life and do the same to them. Or at least I havent found another answer yet...
best of luck to you ~
2006-06-24 19:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proof them wrong , try to achieve something like get straight A on every classes or may be all A and one B. ,get on dean list ,
win a local or state champion (sport), Don't talk to them too much
if you don't talk people don't know what 's in your mind.
2006-06-24 20:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by elmo jr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doing anything to make them not respect you. It sounds like you need family counseling.
2006-06-24 19:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by bluskygreengrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing just live your life and be cool because I do not think that anyone will spend all their lives with their family.
Good luck thou at least try
2006-06-24 19:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by ******12th grade** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FAMILY COUNSELING SOUNDS GREAT FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY BUT ALSO MAYBE YOU SHOULD TRY AND EXPRESS THESE THOUGHTS JUST TO YOUR MOTHER AND LET HER KNOW THAT YOU ARE FEELING THIS WAY.IF YOU FEEL THAT YOU CAN NOT TALK TO HER MYBE YOU CAN WRITE HER A LETTER GOOD LUCK.
2006-06-24 19:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by shepoli3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all moms love there children not because they want too its because ur special to her.Talk to her and tell her how u fell and maybe she will understand,if not get family counseling
2006-06-24 19:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋