I was asked by my father before he died to always look out for my mother for him. Some irresponsible people took my mother from her own home a stuck her in a nursing home. My mother was capable of taking care of herself. They did it for their own convience. At the nurseing home she woke up the first night and forgot where she was. She had Sundown syndrome, which means she was a friad of the dark. She could not see very well. She felt her way around in the dark and became very frightened. She had a stroke. This was the next day aft6er she was dumped there.
I found out that she was in the hospital dying. Itried to get the hospital to take her to her own home to die. They refuse. My mother died in a place among only a few people she knew. She did not deserve that. She was 100% Christian all my life. I never saw her do a single thing that she thought God would not like.
I got ito trouble for threatening the person who did that to her. I never tried to hurt. I just blew off steam.
2006-06-24 12:20:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
As I understand that your intention was for the sake of your mother and taking care of your mother is something that God advises and rewards you for.
Yet, you made a mistake to threaten another person, and you with the good heart you have can go appologize to that man and this will be rewarded by God too and surely your mom who did not do anything that God would not like will be happy for you because you are obeying your God through asking for this man understanding and forgivness for what you did and I am sure he will understand.
Also, let it be a lesson that Good cause would always need to use good means to achieve it although sometimes it is really hard and I feel sympathy with you and Let us pray that God bless your mothers soul as well as yours.
2006-06-24 12:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by egyptian_youth 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off, I lost my mother in 2003 and I am still grieving. Asking why and wondering what I could have done differently. It seemed that things were out of your control, since someone else took it upon themselves to place her in the home in the first place. It has been known for a very long time, that when older folks get placed in these places they go downhill fast.
It seems in retrospect that there could have been more things done for your mother. I feel badly for you and for her that she had to die that way. Nursing homes are no place to die. A person should be able to die with dignity, and in their own homes.
I wonder why they refused to let you take her home? In my instance, I wanted to be able to take my mother home to die as well. But when I talked about it, I was made to rethink it because of the care that she would need and how I couldn't give that to her without round the clock medical care.
We shouldn't question or say "what if".. With her being Christian, she is in Heaven now, and she has no anger or fears anymore. She doesn't hold animosity, and I wish that you wouldn't either.
I am not sure which laws you speek of breaking. You don't seem to have broken any laws. Even if you insisted and removed your mother from the hospital to die at home, AMA, (against medical advice), you still could not get into trouble for that. That was your mother. I don't believe you could have gotten into trouble.
Lastly, it is perfectly normal for you to feel angry at whomever you feel angry at. It is one of the stages of grief.
Good luck and bless you in your time of need...
2006-06-24 12:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by xxxcariooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laws were put there for a reason so yes, it is wrong to break them no matter what the reasoning may be, good or bad. Does God say to keep His commandments unless you can think of a good reason not to? Or does He say to keep His commandments? period!! HE says, "if you love me, keep my commandments." No if's, and's or but's to it. To know to do right and then not do it, to him it is sin. When you know what is right and then you do the opposite, that is wrong. God's words, not mine. Did it do any good to threaten the person? Just got you in trouble and did nothing for the person. That person is going to pay for the things they did so let God handle it and you do what you know is right so you can see your mother again in Heaven. check out the site below and do the studies and you will see what the bible says about a lot of things that many will not tell you.
2006-06-24 12:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by ramall1to 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may notice that movies often have people breaking all kinds of laws for survival's sake, or to save a loved one - this is a way our society is trying to figure out why it's ok, and dealing with the fact that those who are not in an extraordinary situation may disagree...
2006-06-24 12:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God knows your heart, and how dearly you loved your Mother. It is normal to let off steam, that's all it was. Your conscience is in good shape, that is why you feel the way you do. I am sure you have already done this, but all you have to do is ask for forgiveness, and put this matter behind you.
2006-06-24 12:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by tictak kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, off hand...where where you when your mom was being subjected to the courts conservator ship??? This is a scam going on here in California. AS next of kin, if you were locatable, there were no rights of conservative ship. WHERE WERE YOU? If you were 'contactable', you have a serious lawsuit against the conservator and the state. Go for it NOW>
2006-06-24 12:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey im sorry fer ur mother, but u sure could have claimed ur mother back, and it would be perfectly fine if u break a few rules in such circumstances (it depends on how ur society and government look at the grevity of the rules broken)......it would be justifiable if it is looked at with a humane eye.
2006-06-24 12:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by apurv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO MATTER WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO SAVE SOME ONES LIFE IS NEVER WRONG!!!!! And she knows that you tried to do the right thing for her she knows you love her and your dad does too. I am not religious any more I used to believe all of that but I do believe our souls stay close to those we love.
2006-06-24 12:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by g-day mate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got arrested you may be in jail when she finally dies. Which would be worse, her dying in the nursing home with you by her side or her dying in the nursing home with you in jail?
2006-06-24 12:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person should not be forced out of their home and into a nursing home! It should be their choice!
2006-06-24 12:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Stranger In Maine™♥ (Thriller) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋