I will be 31 and my son will be 12 in a few months. Sometimes I would like to have somemore and sometimes when I think "I will be putting my son in 12th grade and one in kindergarden." I think no way do I want to do that. And I'm not dating anyone so I would probably have one child out of school. What do you think?
2006-06-24 12:18:36 · 16 answers · asked by bern 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know people who have had more kids very late - long after they had others also. I had a close friend who was 25 or so when her dad had another kid and she doted on her little brother. I also have 2 male friends who were much younger then their siblings - 1 hated it because he was made to feel like he had been an accident and unwanted while the other loved his parents, but had a hard time getting along with his siblings (I think they were jealous of the baby attention he got).
It can go either way.
We thought about just having the one child - she was so easy and lovely we thought we should'nt push our luck - but the more we thought about it, the more we thought about how we value our siblings and that once we go, a sibling is the only famile left often times. We had another, but they are only 3 years apart. I had a psychic friend tell me I have one more coming and by now I hope that he comes when my girls are 12 or so, so that they will learn about babies first hand.
I guess what I am saying is anything could happen and it could go either way. If I was you I would stay receptive to the idea. While women don't want to have their first kid too late in life, a second can be later with less trouble - and I have a friend now who had her first at 40 - so you still have another 10 years in which you could have a baby.
Who knows, once you 1st kid is full grown you might have another - and often times we are a lot more patient and can do a better job with the second one than we did with the first for all that the first has taught us.
Peace!
2006-06-24 12:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was an only child for 20 years. Then my dad remarried and now I have a three year old sister. For my dad it was a wonderful experience to have a second child. He was more mature, more patient and I think he is having a lot more fun this second time around because financially and emotionally he can cope a lot better with being a father. I am also very happy with my baby sister. Our age differences are extreme, but it allows me to be a big sister and I have a lot of fun being just that!
Do what you feel is right! Maybe the right person will come around real soon for you, keep an open mind to whatever may happen!
2006-06-24 19:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took care of a lady who had one son...he was all by himself when it came to having to make the decisions when his mother had a stroke, so he sent his wife to deal with most of it. Today they have no children, because it was too hard for him. He would rather leave this world not having any because he doesn't want any of his children suffering the same thing he did. I say allow for another child because things are better of decided between more than one sibling on what to do if ever you got seriously ill.
2006-06-24 19:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by proud of it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising a child is difficult as you probably know. Find a good man and get married, then try for another child. In the meantime, a dog or cat can help fill the need. It does for me.
2006-06-24 19:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are still young enough to have a healthy child and if you feel that is what you want you should go with that feeling before it is too late at you age you could still have a few more if you wanted my aunt had a baby at 40 and her oldest child was 20. you may also want to think about your son having someone besides his self after you are gone
2006-07-01 19:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by aprilrayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think children a a beautiful gift from God and the best thing you can give your son is sibling. Do you mean IVF cuz you're single? Maybe get married if you are not and ask your hubby about it. I gon't understand the part about "not dating anyone". Good luck
2006-06-24 19:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by jaemers24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your health is ok to have one more power to ya children are gods gift there a little piece of heaven even sometimes they could be diffacult there awesome there love is unconditional there so cool so yeah if you could finacially and healthwise go for iy hun
2006-06-24 19:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by nikki3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready to make a definite decision about this, you and your husband will make the best decision for your situation at that time. Peace and blessings
2006-06-24 19:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by Alecia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask Your Husband.
2006-06-24 19:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should still have kids, my mom didnt have me until she was 38 and if you want more, have more
2006-06-24 19:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Britney b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋