Alright, I have this crazy problem where I -CANNOT- orgasm without a vibrator. I'm afraid of my guy feeling inadequate and leaving me although I already explained my situation to him. I don't know how to fix it. Can I use a vibrator while we're having sex? And if you're a guy, and you had a girl like me, would you leave her?
Aside from that rather disastrous issue I'm very very skilled at what I do. I'm just afraid that what I can do is not enough without HIM being able to make me climax, and he'd be upset if I used the vibrator.
Also, I've already told him that he makes me feel amazing with or without the orgasm.
*shrug*
Advice?
2006-06-24 12:11:33 · 22 answers · asked by Velocity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are asking the wrong question. First of all using a vibrator is great and healthy as is any sort of masturbation and if you are having orgasms whats the problem (many can't)? If you ask your B/F I bet he likes the idea of you masturbating with him and he will love your orgasms. On the off chance he is so ignorant to think it is a slur on his manhood that he cannot bring you to climax then tell him to research on the internet and see you are with the vast majority in being unable to orgasm from intercourse alone and that sex for a girl is great even without a climax.
2006-06-26 01:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by patti_felz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's my take on it. It sounds like your putting to much pressure on yourself to climax during sex, and that's why your not able to. I used to have the same problem as well. Try to relax and enjoy the time with your guy, without thinking about the climax, and I'm sure it'll come. I think most guys will find it a turn on to use a vibrator SOMETIMES, but if it's all the time, they will probably start to feel inadequate, and have problems performing themselves.
Also remember that most girls don't actually climax from just the penetration. The main stimulation area is the clitoris. So, perhaps you can suggest to your guy to also stimulate that area during sex.
Hope this helps!
-Pegasus
2006-06-24 12:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by Erato 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am proud of you for being open and honest with him already. That is a start. Having him use a vibrator on you during sex is just fine. If my guy finishes before I get there I like to have him use the vibe on me with his stuff inside - I think it adds to the pleasure. It usually turns him on too. So obviously he does not mind. Keep the communication going and all will be good. If after lots of work and trying you still cannot, see a doctor. There could be issues you need checked out. Good luck.
2006-06-24 12:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Toni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need that vibrator to stimulate the nerves for a clitoral orgasm, as opposed to a vaginal one. You can certainly use a vibrator or anything else you want during sex, it's up to a wonderful partner to accept this, and he'd need to be confident in himself. If he's not, he's cocky (no pun intended) and a fake and doesn't have your mutual interests in mind. And no, I wouldn't leave you if I truly cared about you. I would be excited to venture into your unexplored erroneous zones with you for hours until we find that mountain of glistening treasure.
2006-06-24 12:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by scottyxlr8r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a g/f with the same issue. She actually showed me how to use the vibrator on her and it was fun! I made her climax first, then intercourse and she would climax again. Get naked, show him exactly where you want him to use the vibrator and how, and I almost promise that he will be buying batteries every day just in case! Like I did......
2006-06-24 12:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by wldaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...I have the same problem. Boy to think I thought I was the only one. I can not orgasim while having sex. I need "help" also. If you have explained this to your boyfriend and he is ok with it then you should be fine. Its nothing to do with him. My boyfriend understands completly and understands that I am unable to do it anyother way.( I have tried) I wish I could but...just not possible..so don't feel bad. If you do it while your having sex..it makes it ten times better than waiting intil he's done. But its kinda a effort on both parts. My boyfriend tells me when he close and we try to get off together...
Ask him if he would like to try that way you can both be pleased together...good luck.
2006-06-24 12:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of faking it kinda sucks besides. attempt speaking to your boyfriend and practice him the way you supply your self an orgasm. The openess would be stable to your courting. many women folk people do no longer journey orgasms by way of vaginal stimulation yet rather by way of clitoral stimulation. My spouse purely started having orgasms by way of vaginal stimulation approximately 2 years in the past, she's 40-one now. yet now she would be in a position to have quite a few orgasms in a consultation. This advance into very confusing by way of clitoral stimulation, it advance into stressful to speak afterwards. So my advice is to describe to your boyfriend what you want or you're in for a crappy intercourse existence. Dont be shy.
2016-10-31 10:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach him how to do it to you the way you like it, show him , let him ,train him, if you have to hold his hand.from a guys point of vew its all sexxy, never botherd me, and belive it or not it is very important for us guys to make our women feel "good",. Have you ever tried both of you lying on your side/ him behind you /vavanal penitration/ vibrator assistance?
2006-06-24 12:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by error file not found 404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing's for sure, you can't use the vibrator infront of him cuz he will feel less of a man. Particularly if he can see the difference.
2006-06-24 12:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to try a little more 4-play when its time for the sex thing. It might work.
2006-06-24 12:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋