Is it ok to give my girlfriend a ring that has been passed down from my mother as an engagement ring? Not that much money has been spent.
2006-06-24 11:20:24 · 26 answers · asked by TLB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
wow...i think that would be an awesome idea...it is a will be family heirloom and that makes it more meaningful...i would think it was an amazing gesture to propose with that ring.
2006-06-24 11:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by ~Princess*Bonkers~ 4 · 8⤊ 2⤋
As long is it's OK with your mom, I say it's fantastic. If Mom is not ready to see that ring be passed down just yet, it will create some VERY unpleasant family situations for the next couple of decades! Just be thoughtful to both Mom and girlfriend before giving the ring to anybody.
Oh, wait... you do mean you want to give her the ring AS an engagment ring, right? Because if you mean you just want to give her a nice piece of jewelry, STOP! That ring should ONLY be given to the woman you intend to spend the rest of your life with. Remember, if you break up with her, you have to get it back. It's a family heirloom!
2006-06-25 03:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a very sweet and thoughtful gesture - and very sentimental as well. It was a long ago custom that for some reason - has gotten forgotten or not continued. Heirlooms are making a come-back in recent years.
If it was good enough for our Grand-parents - why shouldn't it still be passed-on still today? Not every couple's going to want to spend huge amounts of money on rings. The sentiment and love your father had for your mother, should be carried on by you to your intended.
I think it's a lovely idea!
2006-06-24 20:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by vpenndragon_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! An heirloom is priceless, even if you need a magnifying glass to see the stone. (If your bride doesn't see this, she is too immature and selfish to marry.) Just have it well cleaned, and present it is a suitable box.
(You DO intend for this be an engagement ring, don't you? Family heirlooms are given only to family members. If this lady is NOT becoming your wife, you have no business giving her something in which your whole family has sentimental interest. If you must present with something of your mother's, make it a broach or earrings, not an engagement ring.)
2006-06-24 19:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely - I think that's great, because it starts a tradition, and when you have kids, you can give it to your son to propose with or to your daughter's boyfriend when he is ready to propose. My only hesitation would be if it was an engagement ring from a marriage that ended in divorce - probably sounds kinda dumb, but that just seems jinxed or like bad luck or something. I would definitely mention the idea to your girlfriend first, though, because some girls would rather have something new and unique to your relationship. Even if you don't tell her directly what you're considering, maybe mention that that's what a friend of yours is doing and gauge her reaction.
Good luck!!
2006-06-25 01:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,never and do not.Unless you are certain she is the one and that you are marrying her.Give it to your fiancee if you must.What if your relationship with your girlfriend doesnt work out.I'm sure you would want the ring back cos its from your mother.It's not any other ring.Its passed-down.Eventhough it doesnt worth up much,it's still a family treasure.Keep it safe by your side and only give it to the right girl.If you give it to your girlfriend and your relationship doesnt work with her and if you ask her back your ring,she would think that you are a totally noob and ungentlemanly.It will make things worst if you wanna patched things up with her cos he has a bad impression of you already.
2006-06-24 18:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by DarkhRelientSzmanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that is fine. unless she's a gold digger and she wants u to spend a lot of money on the ring ur going to give her. but other than that, it's fine.
2006-06-24 18:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by hataz_envii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a beautiful thing to give your her your girlfriend that ring. I'm sure she will be honoured to wear it!
2006-06-24 19:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by mazoo_nc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure I see nothing wrong it that and besides passing something down like that I think is romantic
2006-06-24 18:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather have one that had sentimental value. Any one can buy a ring, you trust her with your mothers.
2006-06-24 18:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by churppy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very sentimental and a very nice thing to give. Just know that she'll want a bigger diamond in years to come for your anniversary. LOL ;)
2006-06-24 20:44:01 · answer #11 · answered by hellokittygurl23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋