I have been dating this guy for two years and I want more out of the realtionship, but I am afraid I have not explained myself well enough to this guy because he just does not get it. I want to break up with him, but I feel like I am not being fair to him or myself by not telling him exactly what I want. Am I wrong for expecting him to know what I want out of the realtionship?
2006-06-24 11:03:50 · 6 answers · asked by Grace S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you haven't told him exactly what you want then yes you are being unfair. He's not a mind reader...
Men don't take "hints" very well. Actually most of the ones I know don't take hints at all. You must be honest and up front.
I know we expect our boyfriends to be able to read our minds and know what we want but that's just not realistic.
Tell him see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised.
2006-06-24 11:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask him for a committment, but in a conversation slowly work the question in and ask in these words, "So what do you think about committment?" He'll tell you. You're throwing the topic in the air and saying nothing else afterwards. Plus it sounds better than "Do you want a committment to me?" that sounds pressure like. No guys like that!
2006-06-24 18:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...first you say you want more out of the relationship, then later, you say you want to break up with him. You gotta decide which it is first!! If you really love him and want to be with him, then you have to sit him down and have a heart to heart talk about how you're feeling. If he isn't feeling the same way, then the relationship is at a stalemate, and there's no reason to go on.
2006-06-24 18:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, fair enough, but has he told *you* what *he* expects? If not, you can be sure he's happy with the status quo.
2006-06-24 18:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to settle down, have kids and family. If he doesn't get it, you may as well leave him.
2006-06-24 18:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Timothy Summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you expect or youll never know.
2006-06-24 18:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋