I went out grocery shopping and when i came back i cought my bf looking at porn pictures on the internet. do you think he is just in need of sex or should i dump him? This made me really sad/mad and i would like some confort. I havn't any friends to confide in cause i just moved so please answer this question!!
2006-06-24 11:03:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't be mad! he's a guy. let 'em look at their porn. It's like us girls drooling over pictures of Brad Pitt shirtless. It means nothing...it's just what everyone does.
2006-06-24 11:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by burn this city and go 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't just dump him, that seems kind of rash. I went through this, so I'll try to offer what helped me. Make sure you talk to him about it, because if you don't, you'll just fixate on it and it will make you more upset and angry. So ask him what's up, find out if he was just looking occasionally, or something that is more of an everyday thing, which might mean he has an addiction. Then talk out with him how it made you feel, and listen to what he has to say. That's pretty much all you can do - then you'll decide where to go from there.
I think most men look at porn because they have fantasies that they can't or don't want to act out with their partner. It becomes harmful when that becomes more important to them then actually being intimate with their partner.
Good luck, I know what you're going through. Hope you feel better soon!
2006-06-24 18:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did he react? What type of porn was he looking at, there are many different kinds. Men obviosly think differently about porn than women. When he tells you he would rather look at porn than go to bed with you then you have a real problem.When he quits work and spends all day looking at porn ,you have a problem. If it is ocasional and not the illegal stuf whats the big deal? Women read dirty novels .Men look at "dirty" pictures no big deal.
2006-06-24 18:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with pornography as long as it doesn't involve minors or violence or animals. Your boyfriend is normal. Most guys look at porn.
It has nothing to do with the amount of sex he's getting. You could give it to him ten times a day and he'd still look at it.
If you wanted to be voted Best Girlfriend Ever, you'd buy or rent a pornagraphic movie, bring it home and surprise your boyfriend by watching it together. Or buy him a Playboy subscription for his birthday.
There's absolutely ZERO reason to dump a guy for looking at porn.
2006-06-24 18:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married women read romance novels, men look at porn.
Its not something for you to get mad and upset over unless it was scary porn. He was probably just bored while you were out and figured, "why not?"
You could always try to boost the sex life, no guy will complain about that, but I don't think its worth dumping him over.
It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. =)
2006-06-24 18:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Velocity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't dump him!
He was just looking at porn. Maybe he just got bored. When I 1st got a PC I would save the nude celebrity pictures.....Never looked at them twice guess it was just something new. Tell him you don't like him looking at it. But I wouldn't make a major big deal out of it.
That's just how men are. Either the Internet or they get playboy!
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2006-06-24 18:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my boyfriend, I always thought he was looking at it because it turned him on more than me or I wasn’t good enough (in bed & looks) and he had to go look somewhere else. But guys are guys and they will never change. They will always be looking at the booobs and the pusssy. If he is really into it and it bothers you then I suggest you leave him because he will not change, and he’s just gonna hurt you. More advise, my email: wett_lips_23@yahoo.com
2006-06-24 18:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by wett_lips_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk it out with him. If you cant talk to him about it then you shouldnt be together. You should be able to discuss anything. After your talk, see how you feel. If you dont feel better about the incident start looking for a new BF because that is your gut telling you you dont trust him and a relationship without trust is NO relationship. (((((((hugs)))))))
2006-06-24 18:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by mom910 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think porn is a bad thing and destructive to a relationship. Guys make excuses for it because it's addictive. Tell him how much it bothers you and hopefully he will stop, for both your sakes.
2006-06-24 18:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Scott R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cause he looks at porn doesnt make him a bad person. all guys look at porn.. cause we like seeing girls. doesnt mean were gunna run off with one of them. maybe u should just tell him you dont like it when he does. as far as the esx goes. well we all like it and like it alot-lol. steam it up some. do something special for him.. dunno-u know who u sex life is better then us
2006-06-24 18:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by jake1740 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋