How do I get a two year old?

Question

son to sleep in his bed in his room by himself. I need tips because I am not getting anywhere.

Answer 1

when you put him to bed at night, try just sitting in his room, with him, without saying a word or looking at him, til he falls asleep, if he tries getting up, just put him back in bed and tell him once, that it is bed time, then sit back down in his room, continue doing this til he falls asleep, and each night, slowly make your way out of his room, and eventually, you'll find yourself, just tucking him in bed and kissing him good night and not have to sit in his room anymore, til he fell asleep! ive had to do this with my daughter a few times and it worked, all i have to do now is tuck her in, kiss her goodnight and tell her i love her and then leave the room, and she falls asleep on her own within 5 minutes! occasionally she wakes up in the middle of the night and will get in bed with me, but i don't mind it cuz it's just me and her most of the time!

Answer 2

it's a case of making his room quiet, warm and safe with out 'scary' shadows and just continue to walk him back. Once you decide to really do this don't give in. If you have taken him back 50 times and give in at 51 then he has just learnt it takes 51 times to finally get his way.
take him back 100 times if that is what it takes. Don't talk, no interaction as he wants this. Within a few nights you will see a huge change. You could try a reward chart but I don't feel this will work as he will be upset at the change and wont even be thinking about rewards. Something I also used with my son was telling him if he stayed in bed for 10 minutes i would come back and rub his back (he liked this) for the count of 15 and if he stayed in bed i would come back in 10 more minutes to do it again. If he got out there was no back rub. Usually by the 3rd trip back he was asleep. After a week i changed it to a 15 minute wait after one more week I stopped it. But the biggest problem is night as it is so easy to give in when you are tired and say get in but this is the time you especially can't give in. Make sure you get up and take him back. It will only take a few nights and he will learn he can't win.

good luck

Answer 3

My baby boy is 2 years old and has slept in the family bed (my husband, myself and him) since birth I tried to put him in his crib for a while when he was months old but I was so worried about him I brought him back to bed with me. I wanted to make sure he was safe! My husband and I have had disagreements on this subject but I am more comfortable with him right next to me. I cherish the moments I have with him! He is not in a hospital bed or worse, he is right where he wants to be safe, protected and loved. He won't sleep with me forever, I value the time I have with him now. What ever your reason maybe for wanting him in a seperate bed, seperate room my husband and I meet where ever we can for intimacy, bathroom, guest room even some occasions in the living room! I guess what I am trying to say is enjoy the little person why you can..soon you will not be the most important thing in his life, right now you are!He feels safe, loved and protected.

Answer 4

I have heard several ways, but I found the most effective to be sleep training. I know this is a touchy subject for some people, but I did it to my daughter when she was five months old and it was the best thing I have every done.
First, set up a bed time routine, this should be soothing and something your child likes. For us it is teeth, potty, books, song and into bed. Then it is lights out. For a young child, you allow them to cry for a few minutes then go in, sooth them and leave again without picking them up. Every time you go in you wait a few minutes longer. For older children (I have had to retain my daughter several times) you continue to place them in bed. Don't talk to them or give them further attention, just put them back in bed each time. My daughter is stubborn and we have done the back in bed thing for two hours before. But after a few days, she is back on her routine and I will just kiss her goodnight and the lights go out.
I think the longer you wait the harder it is though. My aunt waited until my cousin was five. He didn't sleep in his own bed until she broke her arm and he couldn't sleep with her any longer because she was in so much pain.

Answer 5

Go threw the normal routine of bedtime and when it's time just put him in the bed and sit down beside the bed ..do not lay in the bed.. and keep your head down and be quiet, and let him lay there and go to sleep if he keeps getting up, just lay him back down and don't say anything and return to the head down quiet position, he'll get the idea and will go to sleep, it may be hard at first but it'll work out

Answer 6

I gave my son some toys to play with in bed. I told him, he could play with these toys as long as he wanted, but he was not allowed to get out of bed.

I made sure, we did all of the prerequisites to going to sleep: Bedtime snack, had bath, brushed teeth, had drink, read books, (Good Night Moon was real good for the final book). Then said Good Night, you can play in bed as long as you want, but you can not get out of bed. Gave a kiss, left a night light on and left. Generally within 15 or 20 minutes he was sleeping.

Answer 7

You just have to keep putting him back in bed and not lying down with him or reading or anything after the first time you put him in bed. I know this sounds harsh, but you have to make him understand that nothing fun or good will happen if he gets up out of his bed...the only thing that will happen is you will put him back in bed. Best wishes

Answer 8

Good luck, mine is three. I let her fall asleep in my room and then transfer her to her room. Sometimes she wakes up and wanders crying back in my room, sometimes she just sleeps away. I also on occasion lay down on the floor by her bed and let her fall asleep.

Answer 9

Swim, run and play all afternoon, then lay him down and let him cry himself to sleep. You have to be able to put up with the wailing for a time to get it to work.

I trained twin two year olds to stop crying when they were in their crib by putting them into them when they started to cry then taking them out as soon as they stop. (unless they fell asleep)

Answer 10

If you can afford it, makeover his room, make it fun for him. Let him pick out how he wants to do it. Then start reading stories every night, I know it is alot, but it works, it may take a couple of weeks but it really does help.