How could a man go thru life knowing he has a child and never care to see him? why are men so heartless?

Question

Why are men so cruel, why dont they care, who actually made man?

Answer 1

All men aren't heartless. And he may not think that he's good enough to see the child. It could be very many factors that could be causing this man not to see his child. So it's not right to just jump in and say "you don't have a heart because you don't want to see your child." Because there may be hidden factors that you don't know about.

Answer 2

Not all men are heartless. The one in question may have some issues himself, or he may just be immature. I would say do the best you can with what you have, and find a male mentor for the child who can make up for not having a dad. Try Big Brothers, Big Sisters or even talk to a pastor/priest to see if they have some sort of organization that does such a thing. You can also try like boy/girl scouts. Either way, forget this person, and find a mentor.

Answer 3

All men are not heartless, believe me.
My ex husband is one of the many that are heartless. He left my daughter and I while I was pregnant with her. Then after I had her, he saw her a few times until she was about 6 months old. When she was about 2 years old he gave her up so my husband could adopt her. My husband and I started dating when I was pregnant with my daughter and he was the one that was there even though I had called my ex. After my daughter was born my husband looked at my daughter and said to her, I will always be your daddy. My daughter turned 6 in April, and my husband has been her daddy from day 1.
Not all men are like that, if he is you need to forget him and move on. There is someone that will love you and your child no matter what.

Answer 4

How can women be so cruel to make their children pawns in a divorce ... for the child support? A lot of women brainwash their children, teaching them that "Daddy is a S.O.B." and reinforce that with refuseing to allow Dad to be a part of the child's life.

Oh yeah, a lot woman want nothing to do with the guy they divorced and pass that ideal on to the kids, but those same women try like hell to keep their hands in the guy's wallet.

Then when the child turns 18, Ole' dad trys to enter into a relationship with the child ... sometimes the mothers lessons have done so much damage, the child continues to turn his or her back.

That's why!

Answer 5

Becuz they follow their ***** and not their heads.
Becuz they don't want to take responsibility of the child.
Becuz they don't want to be tied up and get stuck in a relationship which wud cause obstacles for them in infidelity.
Becuz they think they can rule without a kid but wud get ruled with a kid.
Becuz they don't care becuz they don't want to care.
Becuz if they are not heartless they won't be able to play with other birds heart.
They don't care becuz there are too many birds in a bush,one egg messes the way.
He doesn't care to see the child,becuz he is busy seeing the Honey bees.
Reading the above stuff I hope you understand why men are cruel,becuz they don't won't be kind as they are blind with other chicks.
Scienctist are yet working on who made man and other gender and species on this planet earth.
thats why its said thats LIFE!!!"

Answer 6

God made mankind. Men are not all heartless. There are many mothers who do the same. Some people just have no conscience. Some people DO in fact care; just decide to live in fear. Who knows. You can't let your life be affected by other people's decisions. You need to keep living and make right choices.

Answer 7

As Maty J. Blige sings: "how can you deny your own flesh and blood?"

I just ended a relationship after almost 7 years for that same reason. I knew he had a son, but after we'd been together for a year-and-a-half, I found out he had gotten someone pregnant a couple months before we met.

His story was that he had been seeing her for a few months, but didn't have strong feelings, so he broke up with her. She supposedly told him she was pregnant after he had ended it. He met me soon after finding out, and claims he was nervous that I wouldn't date him if I found out there was a baby on the way (he was probably right).

So I gave him the benefit of the doubt. At that point we were already living together and he was a part of my son's life, and he was bringing his son over every-other weekend. His daughter had just turned one when I first learned of her existence, so I felt that although he was wrong not to have been involved, she was so young that it wouldn't have had too much impact on her.

The days, and weeks, and months, and years went by and we had our ups and downs in life including unemployment, so there was always some drama going on that he felt he could use as an excuse no matter how much I got on his case about it. He always said it wasn't my problem or responsibility, but I felt that I was condoning his behavior by allowing him to act as if she didn't exist.

It took too long on my part - I was (and still am) in love with him; but I had to come to terms with the fact that if his own child can't depend on him, how could I? To me it's a major measure of a man's character. Yeah, he paid child support, but that's not what makes a father. Baby girls need fathers too. I'd tell him that she didn't ask him to have unprotected sex, so why is she the one suffering the consequences?

Last I heard, he's talking about moving several hundred miles away, so i wrote him an email reminding him that he's never going to be able to run away from his responsibilities, and he'll never be truly happy until he does the right thing. I only wish he'd get himself together for her sake and for his own.

Answer 8

Not all men are like that. My husband has done everything to see his daughter except go and make her come. What do you think that does to him? So he has a daughter that does not want to come or a mother that does not let her come. He pays his child support and everything but there are some dumb a**** men that gives all other men the name of dead beat dads and they all have to pay for it.

Answer 9

Not all men are heartless. But I imagine a man (or more appropriately, "boy") that would do that, is in denial, and does not know how to take responsibility for his actions. Maybe should have his penis chopped off too. lol.

Answer 10

Man can not change situation and individual, he is helpless. who actually made manl so all man respect woman that way but we can not change woman.This is the reason man knowing he has child and never care to see them.

Now i have a question. Why woman create that situation man an not see their kids?