she says she only did it because she was hurt. I only dumped her because i was afraid of marriage, and needed some time alone to think. I realized i want to marry her and she took me back and now we are happy together, but it hurts what she did when i was gone...should i be angry? she says i do not have the right.
2006-06-24 10:10:38 · 11 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you both need to grow up
2006-06-24 10:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't hold it against her if the two of you weren't together. Assuming it wasn't with your best friend or brother or whoever would be over the line for most people. She acted very immaturely by sleeping with someone because she was hurt. I promise the both of you that hard times come whether it be financial, sickness or death, worries of trust, whatever and you have to be strong enough to handle without running off. Before the two of you marry, you make sure you can let go of what happened and she needs to figure a better way of handling her problems.
2006-06-24 10:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by LOVE2LD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG you most definitely have the right to be angry at her.. cheated on you with 3 other guys and then tells you you have no right to be mad at her??? omg.
Why do you want to marry her? Don't you know she will just do this again? There is no excuse in the world to cheating. She needs to grow up and realize how horrible it is. She needs to change, and you do too. Don't let her walk all over you like that.
2006-06-24 10:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't put people on a shelf, while you go off and get your act together. But it sounds like you learned this the hard way.
Remember, you dumped her, you fool, you couldn't have expected her to just be alone while you pondered your own insecurities. Be a man, don't go punishing her for trying to get on with her life after you dumped her.
2006-06-24 10:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah...you dumped her after 5 years. She was hurt and angry. You weren't together those two months, you can't hold it against her. If you can't get over that fact, the relationship is not going to go anywhere.
2006-06-24 10:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Blessed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, you can be upset about it, but it is also your fault....you just dumped her....if you think about it, she has the right to be mad at you and not accept you back....but she did right? it is upsetting when someone you love slept with other guys....but you dumped her then....and as she said, she did it because she was upset with you....it may hurt for some time....but try to forget it and just be thankful you have your love with u and she accepts you.....and as long as she doesn't cheat on you when you're married, i think you both will be fine...
2006-06-24 10:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counting nobody's counting not many i guess in my part and in my husbands parts who cares? i dont. he is with me now.they could not been so good or he will still be outthere.my point was to simply let you know that other people goes trough stuff like that and that if you stay with her then you should let go of what she did or simply let her go. dont stay there and torture your self with questions like how many or how good was it,she is with you right? then give your male pride a pad in the back and say im the best she ever had.cool it just go with the flow or go on with your life.....
2006-06-24 11:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is going to hurt but you do have the right to still be mad at her because if you have sex or you had it and u dont know who she sleep with that could lead up to some serious infections take care .........no ofense
2006-06-24 10:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by 619*Monkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call jerry springer he can help. But realy if she did it once she will do it again
2006-06-24 10:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by me too 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U will get over it.
2006-06-24 10:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋