I am going with this girl who has just recently had a baby from this other guy. she said that she wants to be with me but she still has feelings for her baby's dad. she also said that these feeling are stopping her from like me to her full capabilities. The thing is, she hasnt told me this face to face i overheard this conversation while i was talking to one of my relatives over the phone, and she happened to be discussing this situation. she says that she love me and wants to be with me but she doesnt want her feeling for the other guy to get in the way of our relationship. I really want to confront her about it but she doesnt know that i know about it. what can i do about this whole situation because i really love this girl and her 3 month old son? i want to be with her, but how can i try to work this out.
2006-06-24 09:55:17 · 16 answers · asked by obscuredwitlife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her you'll be patient and want to work things through with her. Show her how much you love her and the baby but be firm in awhile and say you need her to pay attention to you not worry about him.... If she can't get over him than you better move on cause all you'll be is second best.
2006-06-24 10:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you are in a serious love triangle. my advice to you is to not even waste time to confront her. tell her that you need to find someone with less drama. trust me she has a child with another man it will never work between you 2. i been through the same thing. relationships where one has children by someone else never works there are too many people involved in a relationship for it to work,then the child's other parent may want to seduce your spouse knowing that she's with you. it will never work. please move on and save your feelings. i'm telling you this b/c i went through it so you wouldn't have to .
I wish you the best of luck in this situation and I really hope that you take my advice b/c I'm telling you this from my heart.
2006-06-24 10:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it:
She was intimate with a guy she loved, bore his child and must remain a part of his life until they die (cuz of the child in common).
You are asking her to turn off feelings like a lightswitch and that's not possible. Allow her to outgrow him. It won't happen overnight.
In the meantime, continue to love her. Also, stop snooping. Nobody like a sneak. *s*
2006-06-24 10:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um ya i was with a dude that was inlove with some other girl he got over her and we went out for 3 years but it was a really really bad experience that i would never want to deal with again look leave her she wont ever fall inlove with you trust me dont do it to yourself if she cant forget about her ex right now while your relationship with her is still new and fresh then whats going to end up happening is that she is going to get over him on her own and never really fall inlove with you TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT your the rebound im sorry to say .look just dont say anything just dump her this is to serious and she has a baby you dont want to get more close to them just leave bro trust me it will hurt alot more later when you relize what im saying leave now while your still ahead
2006-06-24 10:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF U REALLY LIKE HER STAY WITH HER. I WAS IN THE SAME RELATIOSHIP IT LASTED 11YRS AND HE WAS IN LOVE WITH HIS BABY MAMA,IN THE BEGENING IT WAS HARD BUT I KNEW HE WAS AND IS A GOOD MAN SO JUST WROK WITH HER BE THER 4 HER AND JUST SHOW HER U R THERE 4 HER AND HER SON .BECAUSE IN THE LONG RUN THE BABYFATHER IS AND WILL BE GONE FRM HER HEART.
2006-06-24 10:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by ms.lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is do you really want to get involved with someone who is taken. this makes him become a player and a two timer unfair to the other girl
2006-06-24 09:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by lushy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have. and i was weary about gettin involved to begin with bc i knew he was not over her, but he kept telling me he was. i dont know, i still went out w this kid, and it's been nothing but trouble since. whenever we would fight, all i would hear about was/is this gal he was w before me and how he says he was so dumb for dumping her for me and she was the best thing in his life, he was dumb for choosing me, etc. makes me feel like junk, and them two were already done before him and i started dating ne ways.
2006-06-24 09:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by kkaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easily you're by no skill going to absolutely get over him if he become your old flame yet i dont understand if he become. in case you want to get over him spend extra time at the same time with your boyfriend. Spend time at the same time with your acquaintances. learn extra in college, do issues that you want to do. trust me that. do only things you want to do, do extra issues at the same time with your boyfriend. You wont ignore him yet you'll stumble on the fashion to stay without him on your existence. maximum in all probability it's going to make you sense alot more advantageous ---good success I belive you may do it--
2016-11-15 05:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, yes!!!
And it's awkward!
She has to choose to get over it or she will have nothing more than a series of trainwrecks (bad relationships, rebounds). Sorry.
2006-06-24 09:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and if i had one i would give it to him saying the boy whos still loves his ex and won't move on
2006-06-24 09:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by Dwaynasia A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋