I have familly problems, my father is so aggressive with us. So i want to get some advices about what to do.?

Question

my father tried to hit my mother, now he get angry for any things and even if we have exams or something important he doesnt care. i want to leave the house is this a good idea or not. i have my bachelor but thought life is difficult to live by myself.

Answer 1

It's hard to say. My dad treats us with a lot more respect than when we were at home. It's not that he's a bad guy but that's all he knew. He never hit any of us though. I think your mom should get out of there and I think you should definitely go out on your own. I should have but I was afraid. I regret it now.

Answer 2

My first question was the basics:
1- how old are you? Are there legal consequences to you leaving? You said you have your "bachelor" (by that I guess you mean college degree) so I am I guessing right by between 21-23 years old?

2- Safety- you said "us." Does that mean mother and you? Or other siblings too? Is it safe for you leave? i.e., would your father try to kill you for leaving? Also does leaving put some-one else in danger? Can you take them with you? Can you leave slowly (normal move) or would that cause more danger? Should you go to a shelter first (and then get your stuff with the help of courts, police, etc.)?


3- Feasability- Can you support yourself? Do you have money saved up? Is a shelter more appropriate, and seek city/ state services to finance the new place?

4- How dangerous is your father? Has he threatened to kill you, your mother, siblings? If there is a high risk of danger, safety should be, I think, the first consideration.

If he is not dangerous, and my questions came across as impossible, rather than warning bells for you, then there are other options. Perhaps counseling (family therapy) is the way to work through this. Or you can go through the courts, to get a protection order (or what ever it is called in your state).

At the very least, I would go to counseling for yourself, so you sort out your own emotions on this, and make clear decisions.

Answer 3

If you are 18+ you need to move out and live your own life, no matter how hard it is. If you have a Bachelors you should be able to get a decent paying job. It might not be fun or easy at first but you well not have to deal with abuse. You should convince your mother to make your father get some help before he ruins his life.

Answer 4

you have not detailed ur questiion enough but what i have gathered i'll ans accordingly....
is this the first time it happend?... if yes then u shd try solving by talking the problem......
if no, then you need to find out is there something else thar's troubling him or its just simple cruelity........
also if u find that its been the same way past many years then Yes this is the time to move out...... life is not so difficult though its not easy either.......... but b4 taking this step try to find out the actual problem and may be its just the communication gap that is making matters worst.....

Answer 5

Move out and report him to the police.

Answer 6

talk to a councilor maybe they can get some help for you father