I recently went on vacation to the Outer Banks and my aunt ruined almost everything. She felt like she was the all-powerful decision maker in the house. Out of 13 people, myself included, she felt like she could control everyone.
She even scolded me for not asking her to go to the bathroom! (That shouldnt have been a problem, as everyone has a bathroom connected to their bedroom in the beach house.) But why does she think I have to get her OK for something as simple as that? My mother even had to remind her that I was not her kid, and afterwards, out of my aunt's earshot, she told me never to act like her. Im wondering why we invited her and her family to come, they are just the same. Why would a grown woman act so immaturely? How can I show her that Im mature enough to make decisions for myself? On top of everything, how can I show her that she doesnt have as much authority as she thinks she does without disrespecting her? Is there any possibiliy of a much needed change of heart?
2006-06-24 08:22:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is not her beach house, its my uncle's(not the control freaks husband, my uncle on the other side of the family.)
2006-06-24 08:41:32 · update #1
I have a better house in a better neighborhood than she does. My mom teaches the third grade while she's washing dishes, so wheteher she thinks so or not, my mom has a better job too. Who is she to tell me what to do? My mom's a teacher, thats already enough for me.
2006-06-24 12:06:23 · update #2
When you and your aunt ever do something together try to take over and see how she acts. Then if she starts yelling at you tell her what she has been doing all her life. By the way with this kind of problem there is bound to be disrespect because if you keep it all inside one day you will blow up in her face.
2006-06-24 09:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but perhaps she needs a dose of disrespect to wake her up? If you could simply stand up for yourself in a circumstance and let her be the one to get emotional and out of control, she will embarrass herself in front of the family... I finally had to do that to my mother, and I was 30! Well, she is not your mother and you really do not have to do what she tells you. Whatever happens, stay calm and rational and she will be the one that ends up looking like a freak... good luck.
Next time she says you should have asked her if you could go to the bathroom, ask her if she thought you needed help changing your diaper????
2006-06-24 08:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by purrpletoad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't live with her and you don't see or around her that often, maybe just keep out of her way when you are happens to be at the same function. And when she is around and you need to go to the bathroom, just go. If she lecture you about getting permission, walk away, do not stand around listening to stupids.
She show no respect to you, then her words are nothing. Sorry
2006-06-27 05:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by calvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore her. Do things she would not approve of, but your mom doesn't care about. Go make you self a sand which right before dinner, just ask your mom first when you aunts not there. then make sure your aunt is right there when you "help yourself". That will piss her off. When she snaps, make sure your mom is with in ear shot, then totally ignore her as she reams you out. then you mom can step in and put her in her place. to make it worse, stand behind your mom and stick out your tongue! oh yea, that will get her.
2006-06-24 08:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by sweetiepie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister-in-law who is that way I just irgnore her most of the time if I have to bearound her I don't say anything or listen to her really and teil my kids to come and get me if she is bossing them around I have put her in her place before and will do it again since my brother doesn't have the balls to do it
2006-06-24 08:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by ja man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its your aunts house. Never go back and bum a free vacation of her again!
2006-06-24 08:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her...............there are plenty of people in this world to be around that well not try and control the situation.
2006-06-24 08:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by ccccccc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can only do one thing....
control freaks...get there powers from you...when you obey it...she gets the idea that shes in charge....simply...dont listen to her...make her feel lonley...alittle pathetic...make her feel that she is a control freak so she can light it down..
it works for me
2006-06-24 08:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Grack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray first that God will lead you into the right direction.
2006-06-24 08:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Kristi A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋