My best friend is a guy and I talk to him with just about any problem or delimma thats come up. The thing is..he likes me a lot for more then just a friend. He keeps telling me that girls just look at him as a teddy bear/best friend I don't want to be one of those girls, however, that is all I see him as. I tried to look at him more than a friend too, and I couldn't. We've been friends for a few years now, and I think that if we were going to date, it would of happened already. He knows too that I don't feel that way about him. I feel bad I don't feel differently....
2006-06-24 08:16:24 · 20 answers · asked by Jennifer G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Explain everything to him. I think he will understand even if he seems hurt or disappointed after that. My best friend is also a guy and I've been through the same situation a few years ago. After talking to him he just stoped telling me that he liked me. I think for some time it was difficult for him but hopefully he managed to get over his feelings and now he's still the best friend i've ever had.
2006-06-24 08:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by Full Blown Rose 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you are absolutely sure that you do not see him as more than just friends, it is good that you haven't taken your friendship to a dating status. It is good that you tell him directly that you do not feel that way about him. Just make sure that he knows that things are much better like this where you can both be comfortable. Honestly, if you got into something where you didn't feel comfortable he probably wouldn't be either. So, I think that you are handling the situation very well and very respectfully. Just be sure of what you want and don't budge. You have to do what is right for you, besides it may hurt him temporarily, but it seems that the two of you have a really good relationship and you can get through it.
2006-06-24 08:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by femme fatale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about dating him, it will only complicate things, but you help him clean up his act though. Figure out what the hell is wrong with him that makes you unattracted to him, and help him work on those things so that he can reach his goal of being a desirable male. Big Teddy Bear? Sounds fat, help get him interested in working out.
Right now he just sees you as an "out," that is, you're the closest freindliest girl he knows therefore you're his best chance of getting a girlfriend.
2006-06-24 08:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tony, ya feel me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has needs that are not being fulfilled. A deep desire for a girlfriend or companion or "bed buddy" - love yahoo censorship- you probably know what he wants. help him fulfill this need. that does not meen you need to be the girl but help him find a girl. He is probably a really nice guy for you to be friends with him for so long, but he's just lost as to getting started. If you have a friend you can hook him up with or perhaps you can to somewhere with him and help him meet a girl. Even if the girl you hook him up with isnt the right girl it will give him the confidence he needs to meet a girl of his own. This will fulfill his nees and get the pressure off of you.
2006-06-24 08:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I feel like you should keep what u have because something could go wrong and that could mess up a good friendship and we all know good friends are hard to come by. If things are meant to be they will fall in place. If your heart is not in it then that tells it all.
Hope things works out for the best
2006-06-24 08:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by princess b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop feeling bad about not liking him for more than friendship. My best friend is a guy too. That is all, just a friend. He too questioned if we should date. After we quit crying from laughing, we both realized we would screw up our friendship with dating. Make sure your relationships with other men include him from time to time. Nothing hurts worse than your best friend being too busy for you when he/she meets mr.right now. Good luck.
2006-06-24 08:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad ... A good friend is really hard to find...
Stay friends.... it's best for both of you... I wonder however if he was to start dating someone and have less time for you how would that make you feel?? Sometimes you dont know what you got until you're close to losing it
2006-06-24 08:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. you just have to talk to him. approach him one day and tell him that the both of you need to talk about this. but you have to be frank about it if you're really sure that you want to just be friends with him. although of course, it wouldn't really hurt if you give him a chance. go out on a date sometimes (it may actually feel like just your usual friendly "dates"), and you'll see if crossing the friendship line isn't really going to work. good luck. :)
2006-06-24 08:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by J. McCoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt feel bad because if he's a real friend then he will understand and move on. just tell him that no matter how hard you try you can't see him in more ways. explain to him that he is like one of your girlfriends and you wouldnt date them so you cant date him either. really dont feel bad though its just going to take a toll on your friendship with him.
2006-06-24 08:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just have to be friends with somebody and let them know how much you care about them but dont try a relationship with them because you might lose a friend and a boyfriend at the same time believe me i tryed to do the same thing with a girl and it turned out badly now we very rarely talk and it aint the same
2006-06-24 08:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by Bobby D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋