This is getting so OLD, so quick. He has an attitude towards me where if I don't comply exactly to what he wants of me (words or actions) he gets all snide and rude. If we are playing computer games and he gets done first he will sit and stare at me and get all huffy if I don't quit my game. If his computer game is working right he gets all mad and huffy and expects me to be all sympathetic, but if MINE isn't working he'll keep playing his and act like it's not his concern. I feel like the only life he wants me to have is to be totally and completely absorbed in him. I've tried talking to him about it and it just starts a big fight. Heck we just had a fight because I went to my mom's house this morning before he got up to do some stuff and when I got home I needed to exercise so I started exercising. He threw a fit because I wasn't spending time with him. I was like I'm sorry that I have other things to do with my life than sit here and wait for you to get up so I can spend all
2006-06-24 07:52:53 · 12 answers · asked by rayven8099 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
day with you. He got mad and stormed out. I'm so sick of feeling like he has to be the center of my universe or he's not happy. I'm sick of walking on egg shells. He knew when we started dating that I'm independent and like my alone time. I have always felt that for a relationship to be successful you both have to still have time to yourself to do things. Is this normal behaviour from a man? What should I do since talking to him about it hasn't worked? Any advice on how to handle this????
2006-06-24 07:56:25 · update #1
Definitely get rid of him. Guys who are that controlling, narcissistic and insecure can get dangerous. Run, don't walk. I'm a guy, by the way.
2006-06-24 07:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by inter_textual 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u're obviously irritated, and this situation has obviously occurred many many times! u know... u should tell him straight (since talking creates another fight) that u're getting tired, and if he doesnt do something, u're gonna get fed up, and leave. specially if u bump into someone new and less leachy/possessive/.ill mannered/self absorbed/lunatic-ky... (u dont have to tell him that last bit)
i dont know how old u guys are, but he sounds pretty immature. (or just insecure... or... he simply has no life.)..either that or he's been hurt in the past, so now he's playing his cards extra careful and wants to keep everything he cares about under his nose becuz it feels safer that way. thats why he's always trying to be incharge of everything. (which isnt the best method, as u can see) but u need to tell him that u've got a life outside u and his relationship, and u should encourage him to have the same. i'd choke if i was in your shoe... men like your guy icks me out!
2006-06-24 15:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a person that is really insecure and can't stand not having attention 24/7. If you really want to stay with him, don't argue with him. Do what you need to do and he'll either get used to it or leave. Either way, the problem is solved.
2006-06-24 15:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but take my word GET OUT. He is controlling now and that is abusive. At some point he will progress to more erratic behavior. Please get rid of him now! You could be in terrible danger. And don't tell me you LO_O_VE him. If you're asking, your inner voice is telling you this already. You do not need us to tell you. Trust yourself. You cannot change anyone.
2006-06-24 14:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by olderandwiser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needy, needy, needy. He justifies his own existence through you. This is a sign of doom, believe me. He must have his own time and you need to force him to take it. Get his friends to go out with him. Have separate nights out at least once per week. But you have to tell him how you feel. Resentment will otherwise grow, simmer and boil over
2006-06-24 14:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is very self centered and selfish.. u need to have a sit down with him and if he cant accept what ur saying and give u some space of ur own , u may need to think about ending this relationship.. its only gonna get worse.
2006-06-24 14:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds extremely controlling. The truth these are warning signs for abusive behavior. Get rid of him. I speak from experience.
2006-06-24 15:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by mysticsravensstorm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's selfish and/or a controlling manipulative sort...do you really want that in your life? BTW, don't expect him to change, and be prepared to be stalked when you wise up and dump him for a guy who will treat you right.
2006-06-24 14:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Iamstitch2U 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats how my girlfriend was like if i wasn't spending all day with her then she would get annoyed and tell me to kiss her or something like that so i was forced to if i wanted to have her as a girlfriend but 1 day i decided to dump her so i think u should dump him for the lame lack of respect.
2006-06-24 14:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to get out of that relationship fast. It won't get better, it will only get worse. This is unhealthy behavior and could escalate to violence or even death. DO NOT fall into the old 'I can't do better' or "I deserve this" that happens to girls in abusive relationships. Please get help to get out of there!!!
2006-06-24 14:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋