women only.. at what age is a guy consideded too old to date?

Question

just wondering if I still have a chance at finding a good woman for me, or did I waste 14 years of useful dating time on my ex-wife?

Answer 1

well, it depends on te womans age too.if you are 70 and you wanna date with someone 65,then its normal for me.because, dating someone is so normal,its the proof of ability to love.so nothings wrong with your age,even if you are 94.just dont try to date someone who is 21 while you are 60.( but some people do that too)
anyway, just live your life and dont consider yourself old.you only come to this world once.just live your life to the fullest.
good luck..

Answer 2

Sweetheart, pay no attention to the first girl. She is probably only 12. You are never too old to date. I wasted 16 years with my ex. I am happily divorced, 41 years of age, and dating. Nothing wrong with it. Best of luck to you. By the way, dating is better when you're older. You and your partner are more mature--even the sex is better!!

Answer 3

there is no age that is too old to date as long as the person does not feel too old himself. I've met 35 year old men that are not date-able because of their outlook on life. They seem old because they feel old, and they are too insecure to be involved with anyone. Then I've met men in their 40's and older who are young at heart, have accepted their circumstances, and are confident in themselves -successes and failures.
14 years is a long time to be in an unsuccessful marriage. I am sorry for the hurt. Give yourself time to heal and not feel angry about "wasted" years. You will be just fine!
Keep on sailing.

Answer 4

Never too old. Just try to stay near your age range. I am 25 and my boyfriend is 36. It is so nice to be with a real mature man, who's been down the difficult paths, so that he doesn't cross them again. It is refreshing.

Answer 5

I would say 40 is to old to date

Answer 6

John, I am responding indirectly to your question and offering you something to think about beyond its scope. First, you are never to old to date or find the truest kind of love you are looking for. Limiting yourself in this belief system will only thwart your opportunities and ultimately damage your self esteem, or make it worse if it is already damaged. The key to finding love- or even dating - is to try to move forward from your past, including your first marriage and its hurt, by forgiving your ex wife and yourself for its failure. I am sure that you might think this notion is ridiculous, but the fact is that it's true. I have been there.

Like many out there, I was in a disastrous first marriage for 10 years. It was so bad I became ill and developed a host of stress related illness, including IBS, asthma and an ulcer. Nothing quite like surpressing one's emotions for too long. Though I tried everything to work things through with him - from marriage counseling and beyond, it was doomed. In 1994 I decided to leave my ex because the going just got to be too rough for me. When January 1995 rolled around, I moved out, filed divorce papers and went on an emotional journey of finding myself. I thought I was ready to embrace the world. I wasn't.

From 1995 - 2000 I had my requisite post divorce relationships: the guy my age also going through a divorce who was so emotionally wounded he took his hurt out on me by criticizing everything, including the length of my fingers; there was the guy 8 years younger than I who was a work colleague and friend who alternated between wanting a committment and wanting to be Peter Pan; and finally, the man 19 years older than I who all but destroyed my self confidence to such an extent I had to be put on anti anxiety medication. Funny that the anxiety stopped when I broke up with him. I was so confused by why this was happening I was beside myself. And yes, I went on several blind dates that were such exercises in futility I wanted to bang my head against the wall. Some men made me feel unworthy because they thought that 42 was positively ANCIENT - so ancient, in fact, that one would have thought I had just crawed out of my sarcophagus in King Ramses's tomb.I was disillusioned and disgusted.

Through therapy I ultimately came to realize that I was still picking men who were identical to my ex in some ways. I realized, in one shining moment, that I was still really pissed off and that anger was interfering with my relationships and clouding my vision. One day, in therapy, I sat and wept for the first time. I realized that I was as responsible for the dissolution of the marriage as he was. I realized that to move forward I had to forgive my ex and myself. I thanked him karmically for the years we had and the things he taught me, and I let him go with love. I did that and it was freeing. To this day I have NO REGRETS.

I decided to join an Internet dating site afterwards. I had pretty much come full circle and had a greater awareness of what I needed in a relationship and want I wanted. Looks, money and superficialities were not what I wanted: I wanted a partner and a friend, someone with whom I could have a dialogue. A month later I met my second husband, and we married 6 months later. That was 6 years ago. We are very happy, and we are soul mates.

I share this with you so that you know that there are numerous possibilities in life once you get out of your own way and move away from the burdens from your past that continue to be hurled at you. Failed marriages and the confusion of divorce, as well as the reality that divorce forces us to redefine ourselves totally, is terribly hard and difficult. No wonder people are left reeling. I know I was. But, to get what I wanted I had to look deeply within. I had to change my perceptions from a place of anger and rage, to acceptance and acknowledgement in order to get to the other side; a place where I am finally happy for the first time. My husband and I are both 50, and we are soaring... so will you.

JUST BELIEVE.

Answer 7

when he's in the grave !!you're only as old as you feel..good luck