I am going out with this new guy and we get on the subject of sex...(revised)?

Question

he asked me how many times a day I was having sex with my ex. Well we had sex 4, 5, sometimes 6 times a day. I almost always orgasmed.

Then I asked him and told me that he likes to have sex once a day at night before going to sleep.

That is so little. Can I break him out of his shell? I have a huge sexually appetite. Should I move on to someone who can keep up with me? Is it a big deal to be unequal like that?

We have not had sex yet. We are taking our relationship slow. I have not had sex in almost a year. So I know that once I get started again I will be going crazy. I am just afraid that he will reject my offers in the morning and at his lunch break etc. I do not want to have a boring relationship.

Answer 1

Well, you can try to change him or work your number down and get to where you have a middle ground. If you can't satisfy you sexually, you will cheat on him, so it's best to see how it goes and you can't find a way to make it work, then you should break up with him.

Answer 2

You will have to do your best to reconsile or comprimise the sex life. But dont settle for less than you need. You will only end up resenting him and looking for fun outside the relationship. Keep in mind that sex can be an all day thing. Foreplay can last all days as teasing and flirting and touch etc, to keep the exictment up all day before you actually do the deed. Also, hunny, most men like to think they can do it many times a day, but most guys will actually get pretty worn out and tired doing just once everyday. You might need to find someone with a heck of a lot of stamina.

Answer 3

Hmmmm, I am sitting here wondering first how old you are, and 2nd. who are you trying to impress? If indeed you are telling the truth, you could get a job in Vegas and get paid for your nympho mania life style. Also, if your new guy of yours actually stays in your life after finding out about your past sexual habits I would be very surprised. Not that having sex and enjoying it as much as you do is wrong, cause there is not anything bad about it at all, I would just imagine that some guys are like me and do not really want to know (or invision) about my gals past sexual conduct. If you do break up with your new guy because he can't keep up with you in that department, how do you know if you are possibly getting rid of a guy that is everything else that you would want in a guy? He could be wonderful in all sorts of things from a good provider, best friend, to a very loyal all around good guy, which in my book is so much more important than a good bed partner. ( but I agree that there is nothing better than fine sex in the morning after a good nights sleep......wooo hoooo) Not to mention the afternoon delight. Yesssss.......Awww, on second thought, screw it and find you a dude that wants sex 24/7......hehehe just kidding. You better think on this stuff eh? (you bad little girl you) smile.......

Answer 4

That's a tricky one, if you like the guy, give him a chance. It's nto to difficult to break a guy out of his shell if you try the right things. You haven't had sex with him yet, for all you know he might be able to bring you there multiple times in that one time per day, or he may be a 30 second wonder. Hope for the first, lol.

Personally, I don't know of a guy that's in his right mind that will refuse to have sex if it's offered, especially if the woman keeps those offers exciting.

Answer 5

I completely understand where you are coming from. I mean I am a person with a huge sex person as well. I mean the real thing is are you willing to break a good thing because you let your sexual appetite get in the way. I mean don't waste your time worrying about how much sex you can have and you miss all the good things he has in store for you.


I mean I had that problem while back. I just so horny all the time you know but i with a guy who gives it to me sooo good I don't care how many times we screw as long as we screw you know.

Answer 6

6 times a day? Well, the last guy u were with was a superstar. U will compare everything to him and not be satisfied. However, if u r aggressive in the pursuit, most guys can't refuse. Maybe he just doesn't have the same "ability" as the last guy and he knows it.

Answer 7

I willing to bet that you can persuade him to do it more often...6 times a day is a bit much once a guy gets older.

i am 34 and I could probably have time for twice a day but work takes up most of my time, and the stresses of life occupy most of my thoughts.

Answer 8

It's good you're taking it slow. You need to understand his needs and he'll learn to understand yours. Don't push him into having as much sex as you if he's not comfortable. This guy is sensitive and sounds like a keeper.

Answer 9

The best solution is to gain control over it. As someone already said, stop when you're getting there and relax. Pay more attention to pleasuring your mate--orally, perhaps--and avoid rubbing your penis up against anything while doing so. It will take work on your part and patience on both parts. Learn here http://EndPrematureEjaculation.enle.info/?u2n1

As a last resort, some antidepressants curb sexual functioning with the intention of learning the pleasure of restraint after which you could taper off them. Here's your goal: the longer you can delay your orgasm, the more intense it will be. So it isn't just a matter of satisfying your mate. This is the main reason some claim stoned sex is better, unlike drunk sex which can leave you unable to perform (brewer's droop). You enjoy exploring each other longer. And remember, oral isn't just one place. It's all over, paying particular attention to kissing, and TALK about what each of you like. Strange how people don't talk about sex when they're the ones doing it.

Answer 10

i say go for it girl! start with a kiss then go on to making out and lead into it. once he knows how good you are in bed...he won't turn down your offers. he'll love it! and soon he will catch up to your pase!