2 weeks ago my son asked why me and his mom are not together. I said I dont know ask your mom. Didnt think anything about it. I dont miss her or love her. Well she sent me a email today and said that my son said that I wanted to know why where not together in front of his step dad. Now there arguing. She doesnt want me to see him very much because of this. I right now feel worse than I have ever felt in my life. How can I patch this up. Im happy that she is married. I dont want to cause any trouble in there relationship. I cant believe how bad I feel.
2006-06-24 07:08:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is exactly what I would stress to her and her husband. ALL children go through this when their mom and dad are apart and or moved on with someone else.
It seems to be all children's dreams of their parents being back together.
I defiantly would tell them both together at the same time, you are happy for them and it was your son who asked you the question. Make your child apart of the conversation so he knows all parties are on the same page.
Best of luck to you :)
2006-06-24 07:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so silly, all children ask why mom and dad aren't together, it is totally natural and normal for a child to wonder that and if this stepdad cannot understand that i question his maturity. to keep you from your son because of this is the most ridiculous thing i have ever heard and i also question your ex-wife's maturity. and the shame of it all is that your son's the one who will suffer the most because of this. you may be feeling bad, but think how your son feels. you all need to grow up and realize your son is the child here! get together and talk this over for his sake. by the way, you are not the only jerk in this story.
2006-06-24 07:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she had no right to call & rag you out. You don't have any explaining to do to your ex or her husband. They are adults, they'll get over it. You don't owe them anything. You son however, sit him down and tell him what you believe is the reason you're not together (in a nice way. Don't say things like, I was a selfish bastard, and your mom was a slut.). Whatever the reason, try & put things in a way he will understand. Remember, everything you say, is like a lesson to him. He will grow up subconsiencly using that answer in everyday life. Good luck.
2006-06-24 07:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by MysticHerring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's something that you as a family are going to have to do. Your son, & his mom, whether you two love each other or not are a family. And if she is remarried he is family too. I'm in a similar situation, and I would want to have everyone sit down, your son included, to discuss this. No family can survive without communication. Honesty with your son will only bring you closer. Good Luck!!
2006-06-24 07:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Red Velvet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when things cool off a little bit you could all sit down and talk about it. tell your ex and her new hubby that your son came to you and asked the same question and you said that things just didn't work out between you and your ex. explain that you are happy for the both of them and want to be in your sons life.
2006-06-24 07:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by stumped 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out with it and tell her what really happened. If she does'nt believe you then you should ask your son in front of his mother to tell her exactly what u said. Maybe your son thought that he could get u two back together by saying that, so I think you should talk to your son and just explain to him why your not together anymore and maybe he'll understand better. Good luck mate.
2006-06-24 07:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stuff a tampon up your cnt. You are soft and feminine and a sad representation for modern MAN. You can cry and feel sorry for yourself if you like, but that is neurotic behavior and will affect your male prowess. If are going to allow your son and your baby's momma to manipulate you with this unadulterated poppycock, it will create a negative and unloving atmosphere, which perhaps could affect your relationship with your son, and most importantly affect your emotional stability and your perception of reality. Don't get caught up in meaningless gossip! Do not regret keeping it real and being yourself, if people don't like it, tuff sht
2006-06-24 07:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your ex and explain. Kid play you against each other don't be naive. As much as my husband and I love our two girls they play us so good. Tell your ex that it was a miss understanding and that you would appreciate that in the future that visitation is never threatened again. That your door is always open to talk even for the other spouse and that in the future things need to be handled more appropriately.
2006-06-24 07:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by misty a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we at the instant are not jerks. we in trouble-free terms have a humorous way of affirming we like you (or we would choose to be your pal). do no longer say ALL boys are like this. confident, some boys are jerks. have a intense-intense high quality day.
2016-12-09 01:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by howsare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sound like a jerk to me. You didn't have bad intentions. Sounds like she and her new husband are over reacting. Why would they be fighting over that? The kid phrased it wrong and that is part of being a kid. Explain yourself and get over it. If she can't then f'er. Sounds like you're not with her for good reason to me.
2006-06-24 07:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by DiRTy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋