Please explain....
Thanks
Prominence
2006-06-24 07:07:06 · 17 answers · asked by prominence 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And why do most women mistake shyness with selfishness and ego!
2006-06-24 07:09:46 · update #1
BECAUSE THEY WANT SOMEONE THAT CAN KEEP UP WIT THERE SOCIAL LIFE AND REALLY BE ABLE TO TALK TO THEM
2006-06-24 07:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by internetchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want a guy who will talk to them and keep a conversation going. Also they want someone who will keep them interested. I just don't see me being interested in someone who can't keep a conversation going. Although i would be there friend... most of the guys would slowly get over their shyness while being friends with the women. Just try to talk to them and don't think about what they are thinking about you. You are probably a really nice guy and if someone isn't giving you a chance they are missing out! Don't give up...
2006-06-24 14:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by peace.love420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you think this, but there are a lot of women who think being shy is way better than being a big mouth show off.
If you are shy, just work with what you've got and believe me, you'll be OK. Good Luck
2006-06-24 14:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by JC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of it has to do with confidence. The “alpha male” type is invariably confident – though not usually in a terribly cocky way – and confidence is the sexiest thing a man can have. If a man is confident in himself and his abilities – chances are I can be too, but if even he is unsure of himself – then I should be much more wary of him as well.
Not only is confidence sexy, but lacking confidence guarantees failure. A confident guy will ask almost any girl out – and she may go out with him as a result (she may not but that is life). The guy who lacks confidence, who never asks the girl out – will never date her. I have lusted after a LOT of guys who I know liked me, but who never got up the courage to ask me out. If you saw the last Harry Potter film, or read the books, think about why Hermione(?) didn’t go to the dance with Harry – not because she did not want to go with Harry, she obviously wanted to go with Harry, but Harry was too afraid to ask her – and so she settled for going with the lout who DID have the balls to ask her.
Most girls, are terribly insecure and more than any thing else, want attention, they want to be wanted by men. The thing is, that very frequently the guys who are “alpha male” types – the ones who tend to be more violent, and abusive to others, are also the ones who are least afraid to express their desires for a girl. The “nice guys” the ones who “play by the rules” are more likely to believe that they need to “respect” a girl by not expressing and keeping his “desire” for a girl in check.
A part of this also has to do with the myth that girls don’t like sex – the “bad boy” doesn’t care if she doesn’t like sex, he is going to get his anyway – and in the process satisfy the girl. The “nice guy” will “respect” a girl and not satisfy either of them.
There are also a small number of girls who were abused as young girls who find the abuse to be attractive, in a very twisted, and unconscious sort of way – but that is a small number of girls, and I don’t think that is the population you are asking about.
2006-06-24 15:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a turn off, it's just that women are traditional meant to wait to be approached. Shy can work as a flirting technique, but you have to have confidence behind it.
2006-06-24 14:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by Red Velvet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean "to some women." Probably the inability to recognize an opportunity.
2006-06-24 14:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, PERSONALLY, WOMEN LIKE MEN WHO ARE ASSERTIVE AND NOT AFRAID TO SPEAK UP. A SHY MAN WOULDN'T KNOW HOW TO EXPRESS HIMSELF OPENLY IN ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. I DON'T THINK YOU ARE SELFISH, JUST AFRAID TO SPEAK UP. BUT THERE ARE SOME GIRLS WHO LIKE SHY GUYS, BUT THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN DON'T.
2006-06-24 14:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Pea Nis Lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it's a turnoff at all. my boyfriend was really shy when we first met and he still is shy sometimes. i thought it was cute.
2006-06-24 14:12:58 · answer #8 · answered by ga_spazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on the girl. some like the quiet sensitive type. but guys shouldnt be too quiet cuz if they dont talk then how are you supposed to get to know them??
2006-06-24 14:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not a turn off, they just want guys to make the first step.I love shy and sensitive guys
2006-06-24 14:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to me if a guy is shy then teh girl has to do all the work
2006-06-24 14:38:52 · answer #11 · answered by brightfaries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋