My boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months and he loves me so much, he is always there for me and we love each other a lot. The only bad part is I have lied to him a lot, ever since we met... Most of my life as he knows it is a complete and total lie. I am finally starting to crack but if i tell him the truth, I think he could get mad at me and dump me, so I dont know if I should just dump him myself... What should I do? and how do I dump him if it is a good idea?
2006-06-24 07:05:49 · 20 answers · asked by Kewi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for helping everyone!
2006-06-24 07:12:26 · update #1
and i was just lieing about things i have done in my past, it shouldnt really matter right?
2006-06-24 07:13:01 · update #2
You should be honest with him now, and tell him the truth. He deserves the right to know. And if he dumps you, your going to have to take that chance. But if you're saying everything you told him was a complete lie, then he's probably going to be really upset and need time.
2006-06-24 07:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when going with someone lieing to someone that you care about (even if it is a white lie) it will eventually catch up with you and if you care about this person like you say you do then that has to stop and you have to start telling the truth even if it hurts this person to here it. yes at first he will be mad and upset with you for you not being totally open and honset with him but if he really loves you and he will stick by your side no matter what you tell him theres no reason in the world for you to dump him good luck nad
2006-06-24 14:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ann C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what ur liein about. If they r lies u can change then do that and dont tell him cuz what he dont know cant hurt him, but if u cant change the lies then u need to tell him the truth and decide whether u still wana b together. U never know this time nxt yr u may still b together even though he knows the truth. good luck
2006-06-24 14:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sexy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so instead of being honest and telling him the truth like you should have done from hte very begining, you are just going to dump him. don't you think he deserves the truth. yes he probably will dump you but you did that to yourself so own up to what you have done instead of taking the easy way out to protect yourself. don't you think its time you did something right in all of this?
2006-06-24 14:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by guerisky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him...he may get mad but don't u think it's better he finds out by your telling him then to let him find out some other way and not even want to talk to u? if he loves u like he say he will have u anyway u are inside and out. and if u love him u won't hide the truth from him any longer.
2006-06-24 14:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Pimpin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth! Tell him you are very sorry and that you would love to work things out with him. If he dumps you then it just wasnt ment to be. Let him know how very sorry you are tho.
2006-06-24 14:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by uluvme8807 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just own up and tell him the truth. The worst thing that will happen is he will leave you - the best thing that will happen is he will understand and forgive you for lying. Either way, you need to be honest with him and show him who you really are.
2006-06-24 14:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you want a guy that loves you for who u really are and not someone that u've made up? He may get mad when you tell him the truth but if he really loves you he'll want to get to know and love the real you.
2006-06-24 14:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you lied about........... break it into smaller pieces.......... take one at a time..........find a good time to start talking about that subject........... and then say something like "" When we met, I did not want to scare you off, so I think I did not fully tell you all of the details about me .. regarding this "" "" Now that it's come up..... and we have been together this long... I want to share this with you now......... because I feel really close to you... and it's important to me that you know all about me ""..............THIsssssssss way, he will be happy that you feel close to him now.. to share this........... and if you do it slowly........... explaining ur lie ( I mean, sharing and getting closer to him ... lol ).......... it will not shock him.
2006-06-24 14:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him truth n tell him d reason y u did it obviously he will b hurt but if u have valid reason then he would be with u n wont dump u ya he may get hurt n lose trust but try 2 conquer it again i know it sounds dificult but u have 2 do it gal.
2006-06-24 14:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by sheenu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋