I basicually just figured out that my father and mother are mentally abusing me. I am 20 will be 21 July 2nd but anyways I am going to College in August my mother and father do not support me at all. They do drugs and also my mother drinks everyday. I would like advice if someone would please tell me what I should do. I would move out but I dont have the money. I don't know what to do please please please help me!
2006-06-24 06:42:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Let me ask you this, are you going to local college? Can you get a dorm? Alot of schools have programs w/ $$ assistance where you can get a dorm room too. I would def. look into removing yourself from the sittuation b/c then you could be better able to help them clean up their lives. If they are supporting you $$ you may need to gather up some family and friends and do some type of intervention. Know that thay will resent you for a while, but I'm sure the drugs&drinking are contributing to how they treat you. There are some great family couselors out there and many progs. to which your family would benefit. Things will prob. get worse b/f they get better, but hang in there.
2006-06-24 06:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by javabean 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Look whether you like it or not.. they are going to get old and die !! you have to be responsible for you own actions you must take care of your self ..There are plenty of people who car about you in the world you just havent seen it yet..The drugs are a facet for the devil ,..so guess what thats whos picking on you ....not there true selfs...If you have the brain to talk then you have to remember where you came from The worlds is ******..It cant rain every day ..You have to prove to them be action..Hey maybe they will never see it ..It wont be your fault as long as you follow thru and prove yourself..Stay into your books and work alot ..Spend no time at home except to **** shower and shave..Get on you feet and thing will fall in place...You have to make money to survive..So work study.and sleep 6 to 7 hrs a day when there not awake..work your schedule around there stupidity..be strong part of the world loves you..Theres a battle going on havent you watched constantine....... Rememeber this your not a slave..! enjoy the little things!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-24 13:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by curious007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to college and stick with it, that's what will make it possible for you to gain the independence to get away from your parents and their lifestyle. There are support groups available for the families of substance abusers. Al-anon and Narc-anon are two such groups. If you are 20 going on 21, you are old enough to be self supporting.. it will not be easy but is do-able. You will have to set boundaries with your parents as to how much you will be willing to take from them.. only you can determine how much you can cope with. Good luck..
2006-06-24 13:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by The Shadow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your of age to get out on your own. See if their is anyone else you can live with. Or After you turn them in for the Drugs. You'll be all alone. As far as turning them in for abuse, and drinking. The cops will probably laugh, since you are old enough to get yourself out of the situation.
2006-06-24 13:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend ,
As a mother of two successful children i don't have but to wish you all the luck and blessing you need.
I advise you to chose the major you like the most and go to collage concentrate on your study and try to find a part time job .
and when you get home you try to keep away from bringing any trouble with your parents and keep this time for your rest only.
Here I have nothing but to wish that someday they will realise what are they doing to themselves and you .
good luck in your study and take care.
2006-06-24 13:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by nabila s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get a job and save up for a house. otherwise stayout of house as much as possible. I really don,t know if the police or anyone else can help unless their hurting you physically since your 20 years old. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-25 00:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by lizardlover42000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would apply for a job. That can get you the financial freedom to get away. Also, let a relative know. Maybe someone will take you in until you can get up on your feet. Whatever you do get away from the situation. Its not worth you letting yourself be destoryed.
2006-06-24 13:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by J M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have any friends you can stay with till school begins? You try for financial aid, and stay at the dorms. It's a volatile situation with drug user and alcoholic, leave to other family or friends.
2006-06-24 13:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by DollyLama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your version is correct, you are in a pathological condition. you approach one of your elder relatives who can talk to your parents. i think your parents need urgent consultation of a psychologist. as they protest to consult a psychologist, you take the help of your relatives who command respect.if the problem still persists there is no alternative but to go out of your house and lead your life with courage otherwise you will also be addicted to drugs and drinks
2006-06-24 13:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your there son you no wot 2 do be strict there ruining there helth by drinking and drugs they must stop (unless the doctors say they should br taking the drugs) get there life sorted but dont ruin ur life to u go to college get a jod and share a house wiv mates maybe move back in wiv ur parents when there ok..........good luck............
2006-06-24 13:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋