what if your kid calls your bluff?

Question

If when your child is acting up and you want to issue a warning so you say "would you like to go to your room?" and they tell you yes?

Answer 1

One strategy is Tell, don't ask! Even if they are agreeable to your command, it says you are the one making the decision not them. Or, you can let them have some limited power by making a choice of two of YOUR preferences hidden in it, like: either you can stop playing with your food and eat it, or leave the table.

Answer 2

Then send them to the room WITHOUT, TV, CD, radio, video games. Only leave books in the room.
Even if you don't get the whole point across, at least they might get some reading practice, or they will get a good nap.
If that continues to fail, then take out the books too.

Also, you must not let them know you are keeping tabs on them. Do your best to let them feel alone and seperated. BUT, do keep an ear open and pay attention to what they might be doing while confined to room for punishment.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Well then have them go to their room. Your child is testing you to see if you mean what you say. If you let them get away with things after you give them a warning their behavior will only get worse because they know you don't mean what they say. Only issue a warning if you are willing to go through with the punishment

Answer 4

YOu say yes, then go. BUT.....this is an obvious sign that "going to your room" doesn't bother him in the least.......so why use it at all? Kids usually like their rooms. They can hang out on their bed, look at their toys, play with their stuffed animals, etc.

Try this.......cause I had the SAME problem.....instead of saying, go to your room......get a chair, stick it in a corner facing a wall.....away from anything they can reach, and make them sit there instead. It drives them NUTS, cause they can't get comfortable, their bored, there's nothing to look at or no one to talk to. Try it.

Answer 5

Then tell them fine....GO! But then tell them there is no playing with toys allowed or you will have to take the toys out of the room until the child has learned they're lesson.

Answer 6

Then send them there! Remember not to be too specific with your "threats" of punishment - your child's imagination at what you MIGHT do if they misbehave is a lot scarier if you don't specify a punishment. And then, if they DO misbehave, follow through with your punishment - stated or otherwise. If you don't follow through with punishments NOW, you will only have yourself to blame later when the consequences for misbehavior are much greater.

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Answer 7

I have said to my son many times do you want to go in Time Out and he says yes. I say ok. I place him on time out and tell him when he is done acting up then he can say his is sorry and then I will think about letting him up. He does go to time out and when he is sorry he gets up after I tell him it is ok.

He has learned that placing him on time out is a break from both of us for a while. Sometimes they do not know how to tell you they want to be left alone for a while so they act up.

Answer 8

send him to his room, but make sure it is not a fun place with a TV and lots of toys.
Actually, I would suggest sending him to another room or a corner because he might start associating his room with punishment and have problems going to bed at night.

Answer 9

Never EVER ask a child, unless you are ready to hear an answer lol

I say "mind me, or we will leave" at the library. They tested me, we left and had no books or movies for a week. They mind me now lol.

Answer 10

Well, does your kid have a t.v. and stuff in their room? If they have that kind of stuff, take it out and then send them there. My mom used to do that.. but I had a phone, stereo, t.v., etc. so I really didn't mind it. I would make your kid sit with you and watch Opera or somethin'.