We have talked for months now on the phone and text messages and on the computer he says he loves me he lives 3 states away and wants me to move in with him. I like him as a person so far and would like to farther my relationship with him. But i dont want to whined up hurt or killed what do you think i should do he wants to come and get me on the 1st of july because thats his vacation week. what should i do and has any one else found love and a relationship of the internet before?
2006-06-24 06:03:48 · 7 answers · asked by Reina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy smells fishy. If he's saying that he loves you and he doesn't even know you (as in, he hasn't met you in real life), he has ulterior motives. The fact that he just simply wants you to move in with him is also an indication that (a) he's immature and (b) doesn't respect you. Nobody in their right mind would just invite a stranger to live with them, and really, you are a stranger to him. Phone calls, text messages, and chatting don't constitute knowing somebody--and you can't fall in love with someone you don't know. (Face to face relationships often take months before each person takes off their emotional masks.) He is being pushy by wanting you to live with him. Why didn't he say that he'd like to meet you, or that he's thinking of moving closer? What's the rush? I think this is a big red flag and you should end it before you get emotionally or even physically hurt.
I have heard more nightmare stories about Internet dating than happily-ever-after stories, which is why I avoid it. I hope you stay safe.
2006-06-24 06:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's asking too much too soon. I have a friend on line who has done this very thing. She moved in with him leaving her life behind and ended up with more than she could handle. The first month was the best she ever had. a great guy with great sex she felt like she was on the top of the world. after that month he started changing and got really strange and now she was stuck. he started with sick suggestions that turned into sick demand and I met her and helped her out to get out of a bad situation. But not always will there be someone to help. you should never be pressured into doing something like this. if it is true then it can wait.
2006-06-24 06:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny trust me that is way to soon for you to be doing something like that. I have been talking to my now bf for a year and a half we just met in January. I suggest a short meeting like a week where you can see what he is like in person first but do it in a public setting. If he loves you like he says he will be open to it. You don't want to wind up with some crazy person who you thought was someone else. Be as honest with him as possible thats what my bf and I do. If he isn't will for a test run then he isn't want you want or need. Please heed my advise I just did all the first meeting stuff. And I love my bf even more. You need to find out what he is really like in person and stay in a public place.
2006-06-24 06:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have met a few guys online...and have met them for real later. Like you, I usually talked with them for quite some time, before agreeing to meet them.
My advice to you, is always meet first, in a public place. And, trust me....you can really "think" you know someone, totally...just by talking with them...
But, when you actually meet....things can be wayyyy different. You cannot see one anothers mannerisms....or the very essence of who they are, until you see them in person.
I have met some really great guys online. I "thought" I loved one or two. But, when I actually met them....I knew right away, that I was mistaken.
Don't convince yourself it is really love, til you see them face to face. And, be careful. Trust your intuition!
2006-06-24 06:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the Danger ZONE....He said he LOVES you........DO NOT DO IT
Men dont say those words unless
1. They are truly in love
2. They are trying to get yo azz...
More than likely its #2 because he cant know you enough to say those words...they are fraudulent!
your Gut is telling you something...listen to it...dont go against it...
you could be going thru alot right now, and you guys probaly like each other, but there are alot of wolves in sheeps clothing out here...
continue to talk to him the way you've been doing....and if he pushes futher...STAY at your pace
Dont let anyone talk you into doing nothing...
2006-06-24 06:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best advice on the first meeting, is keep in a public place at all times. It isn't worth the risk in just going off somewhere strange without anywhere to go to, in case it all turns out wrong. But, good luck with him.
2006-06-24 06:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't rush into this situation and tell him you want to farther your relationship before making a decision like this. Have you even met him personally? I think it is too risky.
2006-06-24 06:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋