What do you do when you decide that someone is not worth being in your life and you tell them, although you still love them, and they continue to call you and interupt what you're trying to do as a person. I love him, but I have to move on and he's making it hard for me. It makes me feel good when he calls because I still have feelings for him, but I know that's only going to make me go back to where we left off at, which is not what I need. Help!! Anybody know anything to get passed him?
2006-06-24 05:35:18 · 11 answers · asked by DaBossLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are going to have to be really determined and stick to this. Tell him NOT to call you for a while, that you need to be alone for a few weeks. That shouldn't be THAT hard, because you should be able to take comfort in the fact that not talking to him is temporary - just until you feel you can handle it. Then, if he continues to call you after you've told him not to, don't pick up! You have to separate yourself for a bit - just for a little while. Then you can reassess the situation. Be sure to give yourself enough time to make some mental progress. Keep in mind the long term, not the short term/what feels good at the moment. People who get ahead in life and get what they want don't give in to their every whim. If they did, we'd have practically no doctors, lawyers, etc, because 99% of people would rather be relaxing, watching tv, having a drink, out with friends, than studying their as*es off. You need to have no contact with him for a little while so that you can get stronger.
2006-06-24 05:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It will make you feel good knowing that the person you still have feelings for is still calling you and asking you what you are doing everyday. But if you really I mean REALLY want to get rid of him, you have to be the bigger person in this situation. You are the one that wanted to stop seeing each other, so take on the role. Never play mind games with the person you have feelings for, or they will keep on calling me. When he calls, dont answer, call him back in a week or something like that, and see what he wanted. Then he will know that you have moved on. I know its hard girl, but nothing in this world is easy especially with dealing with love. So my advice to you, go out and have a good time. Guys come and go so does love. You get hurt with both and you will always have the strength to get back up and get on the horse again. :) have a good day.
2006-06-24 12:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I'm in the same situation as you and it really tears me up inside. Sometimes I feel that I'll never get over it but, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. And GOD doesn't give you more than you can handle. Time apart will be good for you. That way you find out what it is you need. How long have you been seperated?
2006-06-24 12:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another boy friend will be a big help. But you have to face this yourself. Just tell him exactly how you feel and that you want to have him stop bothering you.
He needs to understand why you can not continue. He may think that if he just keeps it up you will break down and go back.
Make it clear that you will not and why.
He knows you still have feelings and he is playing on that. Stop it!
Move on.
2006-06-24 12:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best medicine was going out with my friends were we can meet more people for example i love dancing so I went to the clubs with my friends and met a bunch new people became friends in the beginning and now I'm with a guy that treats me how I want so GOOD LUCK
2006-06-24 12:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by nena24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if i could suggest some thing i would say to cut him completely off dont answer his calls and he;ll move on and you can be the person you wanna be .
2006-06-24 12:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by abby g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "I'm seeing someone else, and I don't want to talk to you anymore. Goodbye!" Repeat as many times as necessary. Talk fast, talk loud, and hang UP. Then, shut the phone off...
2006-06-24 12:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him out of your mind by dating another boy
2006-06-24 12:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by newischk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got a really good guy, y u wanna break up when u still love him? it's kinda weird for me to do that. damn.. y aint i meet some guy who willingly to still call me even when i say break up -_-'
2006-06-24 12:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore him
2006-06-24 12:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by sweetbolbola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋