so me and my ex bf broke up like 3 times but he made cry so much n there this new guy whoz not in the same country but he calls me juz to make sure i m okay n he alwayz says that he loves me but i told him tht i dun..but he styll doesnt give up. He says i have become his habit. He wants to make me a part of his life. My ex never tried to check up on me how m i doing n i alwayz cry cuz i still love him. But i know hez just not worth it. But styll i need to get over this feeling. Please help me!!!
2006-06-24 05:20:46 · 21 answers · asked by upasana p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think what you're feeling for your ex isn't love. You need to find a way to love yourself enough to be willing to be more selective or choosy when you look for a boyfriend. Set higher standards for the way you're willing to be treated by a guy. That shows self-respect. Find a guy who respects you enough to NOT make you cry. You need to take care of yourself and get on with your life, not waste time over the ex who obviously doesn't give a damn about your feelings. Don't give him the power to ruin your life even you're not together anymore. You can't control what he does, but you CAN control how you respond to the way he treats you.
2006-06-24 05:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Leah L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you go back to someone who made you cry over and over again? If he did it then what makes you think he won't do it now? It's hard to To accept the fact that one doesn't care for you, when you care so much about them. I've been there, and I understand. There's nothing wrong with your friend calling to check on you, at least you KNOW he cares. If he's not in the country, then just keep it friendly. Maybe you need some time to heal before getting into a serious relationship again. Date, but don't fall in love right away. I was in a realtionship for 4 yrs, and we've been broke up a yr already, and I'm still healing. I was in the same situation as you. Trust me the hurt will go away it just takes time. Goodluck!!!!!
2006-06-24 12:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by leslie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance makes me cry a lot too, but like you, I still love him very much, and I do not want to leave him. Thats really sweet about the other guy who is talking to you and checking up on you, but I think you and him should just be friends. You and your ex should talk out what the problem is, and see if you can fix it. Thats what I always TRY to do with my fiance. This guy is too far to have a relationship, my fiance and I were only 3 hours away from each other when we first met, but you said this guy lives in another country, that is not worth it, because in the long run you wont be happy, because you will NEVER get to see him.
2006-06-24 12:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by txangel4455 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work on getting over this ex!!! Go slow with this new guy so you do not hurt him because you are on the rebound. Don't let the new guy push you too fast either. Take your time. You can't love someone else until your heart has healed. I don't know about you but I would not want to be known as a HABIT!!!! Where is the love and romance in that? or in fighting and crying? Run!!!
2006-06-24 12:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say try it. Your Ex'll probably make you cry again, and if he really wants to make up with you, he'd tell you. Before you go out with this new guy, though, find out more about him, his personality, etc. However, this is just my opinion. Just as Salem said: Follow your heart, but don't neglect your mind. And a saying from me: Do not give up once a relationship is close to dying. Do not be afraid to love again. I don't know if that's logical..BUT what the heck.
2006-06-24 12:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Broccoli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give yourself a time out ok, spend a lot more time with your friends for the moment becoz they will know how to cheer you up and you need a lil cheering up. Your ex, leave him alone, i know you still love him, but leave him, if you really want him back just tell him the conditions (he will treat you better by calling you and having a convo) tell him everything that you dont like about the relationship then you will see if he really likes you because he will change if he does and if he doesnt leave him theres someone else who will treat you better and is worth your tears. this guy who says he loves you, its nice but keep it light you dont need this right now....
2006-06-24 12:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful of this new guy. Some men pray on the weak. It almost sounds controlling like. Remember you don't always need a man around, expecially when you have doubts about both of them. Be single for a while and have fun. Mr right will come along.
2006-06-24 12:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Funk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stay away from both at the moment....try to focus on what you want....and then decide who to go for....but i think your ex isn't worth your time any more....and i don't think it's a good idea to give the other guy a chance either, cause it'll be like rebound.......and that never works....you'll hurt him, or get hurt in the end....Just give yourself time to readjust, then you'll figure out what you want.....by the way, it's ok to stay single for a while, it won't hurt.......besides, single life is beautiful if you make use of it.......Good luck
2006-06-24 12:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give this new guy a try because if he loved you enough to start with you never ever would of broke up in the first place. Just try this new guy and if you still realise you fancy the other guy that you broke up with try and be mates with him.
2006-06-24 12:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by Katieee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings but you can't go back to that guy find someone else that can appreciate you and move on with your life. It is OK to love yourself more than you Love someone else. Give someone else a chance you won't regret it.
2006-06-24 12:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by chandra k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋