My husband is always worried that he is being to mean or hard on our daughter. For he is always worried that when he punishes her that he is hurting her because she cried. I tell him that he isn't doing anything wrong its just normal for them to cry because they don't like to get punished. What can I do to make my husband feel more comfortable about punishing our daughter?
2006-06-24 04:26:38 · 18 answers · asked by shellz1616 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Have a discussion with your husband about consequences versus punishment. If your daughter does something wrong, she deserves to know that there are consequences for inappropriate actions. He is not the "punisher" but the consequences enforcement officer.
2006-06-30 09:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before he punishes her, make sure he's sitting down with her and explaining why he's doing it. Ask her if she knows what she did wrong and explain why it was wrong. I'm sure the punishment isn't the primary thing that's making her cry, it's her feelings that have been hurt. The two of you should take turns in a sense with the punishment, you both don't want to punish at the same time as she'll feel like you're ganging up on her but she needs to know as well that just because you aren't the one that punished her doesn't mean her behavior was okay with you. Hope that makes sense.
2006-06-24 05:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but you need to tell him that she will pick up on EVERY insecurity he has! Especially with parenting. If a child realizes you were unsure about your decision, you're in for some big trouble later. Nothing creates a manipulative, ill-behaved child like an insecure parent. You have to be confident that you made the right decision and make sure she knows that because if she thinks there is one tiny bit of weakness about him, she'll use it sooner than you think. I don't know how old your daughter is, but if she hasn't figured it out yet, there will be a time when she does and she will use his weakness to get her way....over and over and over.
2006-06-24 05:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by momof3girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha!ha! I thought I was the only one. My wife has taken the responsibility away from me. She is the one who hands out the punishment now to my 10 year old. I am sorry but like your husband I just can't hurt my little girl. Now on the other hand what's fair is fair and when my two boys were younger it was I who dealt out the punishment for them.
2006-06-24 04:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are good at being over dramatic. Especially when it is a parent that they know feels bad about it. Tell him that discipline is an essential part of raising a child and that when he punishes her, he just needs to remove himself from the area she is in so she can not him feeling bad and she can calm herself down. This also gives her alone time to reflect on what she did that got her in trouble and him time to hide his feelings of regret.
2006-06-24 04:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by stewbdoosmrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw my husband's nephew wearing my husband's watch?
2017-03-28 05:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-11 17:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-16 03:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by Alfredo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I'm just a teen myself but I've been punished many times and usually we get over it. tell you re husband that he's doing the right thing . I've been whipped plenty of times. and i just turnded out ok. and so will she. believe me i don't hardly get in trouble as much as i used to!!!!!
2006-06-24 04:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by angle2980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to punish children when they are small provided that the fact they are wrong. Or else they will grow up terrible.
2006-06-24 04:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Hellohello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋