At first i was ok with it because secretly I'm attracted to females but when he asked that the second girl be my best friend I got really worried. Now I'm skeptical because i don't want this to turn bad for me. Plus I've never done a threesome b4. What should I do?? Please Help!!!
2006-06-24 04:24:21 · 30 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Introducing a relationship to poligamy is frought with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundemental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-06-27 20:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, you're ok with it but you need to set some rules.
Rule #1 - NO BEST FRIEND. If he wants a 3 some he should be doing it in a way that will make YOU comfortable. That means that YOU pick the female, and during YOU call the shots. He'll still have fun, but only if you're comfortable. That'll give you a chance to be more open during the experience.
May I suggest going to a swingers bar? That way you find a "pretty" female, without the thought of "Is he doing her behind my back?" Last thing you need is to be on Maury for one night of good fun!
2006-06-24 11:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by Gremlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never had a 2nd. girl with me and my wife, but I always wanted to. My wife said I could pick out a girl and let her know who I chose and if she agreed with my choice she would do it. She is attracted to girls too. I never went that far yet, but it sure is tempting. I'm not too sure that you should use your best friend though. It could turn bad or something. Maybe you should go with your instincts and first try a different gal and see how that goes, and then talk to your best friend if you still want to and see what she has to say about it. Just a suggestion. (smile)
2006-06-24 11:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plenty of healthy couples have threesomes. It might even be better with someone you both know well. If you are absolutely uncomfortable with it, tell him that and don't do it. But if you think it might be fun, try it. Set rules if it makes you feel better. Like he can't kiss the other girl, only you... stuff that will let you know that you are still number 1, even with another girl in the picture.
2006-06-24 11:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes are easy as long as you have set up the ground rules. You might be better of starting with someone you are atttracted to, that neither of you know. Bringing friends into it may not be the best answer as you will always end up questioning whom he liked better.
2006-06-24 11:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by A A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. What an idiot. Your bf, not you.
Anytime someone wants to bring in a third party, it means they're not satisfied with what they have. So if your bf is looking to have a threesome, he's probably looking for a relationship different than the one you've got.
Me, I would ditch his sorry tush. He's using you. You can find someone who is hapy to be with you because you are YOU, not because you're willing to let him screw other peopple in front of you.
Best of luck.
2006-06-24 11:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by eriayasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking suggest that you have reservation and those reservation are coming from that voice inside that's telling you DON'T DO IT. And if you think complying with the fantasy will keep him, it won't. I'm sorry but he's about to fly the coup but don't let him take you're self respect away nor your friendship.
2006-06-24 11:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, the fact that he ask you this proves he doesn't love you the way a true love would. He's just in it for the fun & games. Now you have a serious choice to make - say yes to lust & you say no to true love. You really need to find someone else who would cherish you & would not want to share his love with anyone but you.... Good luck...
2006-06-24 11:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First tell him to get lost. And second find out who you really are sexually. Threesomes are not about love. They are about lust,infidelity, and getting away with cheating on each other.
2006-06-24 11:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by bebe_253 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. He cant really love you if he wants to share you. You should have more pride in your self then to even think of doing this. It feels good when its happening but you feel dirty and cheap after, Give it a lot of thought and I hope you make the right choice. the choise is yours.
2006-06-24 11:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by BUTCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋