2006-06-24 04:16:41 · 9 answers · asked by Kayla22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you dont want to be with him so dont go back to him. find someone else to love and be with.
2006-06-24 04:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were miserable then you already know what you think is right. You are too concerned with having a father figure in your kids life and staying with someone for the kids never made anyone happy. Are you willing to pass up on the true love of your life by staying with someone who doesn't make you happy? Your kids will be better off seeing a happy set of parents then a bad set. You should do your own thing and wait until God brings you your soul mate.
2006-06-24 11:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Pimp_Slapper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good support system around you like family and friends and move on with your life. If you were miserable, he'll change to get you back, but will slip back into the same old guy once he's comfortable.
Be strong and take your life back, if not for you then do it for the kids. They need a strong mom. Remember, you gravitate towards what you know. When your kids grow up, they will gravitate towards men like their mom had because that's been their role model. Take back your life and give them a strong role model. FInd a guy who will treat you like the queen you deserve to be treated as. Show them healthy and responsible relationships do happen and they will seek that when they began looking.
2006-06-24 11:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by moosemunchy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question. You were miserable. Just because he wants you back doesn't change that and it won't change him. Try it again, you'll be miserable again. Do what YOU want to do... it's perfectly okay to make yourself happy, even if it makes him temporarily unhappy. Focus. You have to live with the decision. His temporary unhappiness over the break-up is not nearly as awful as your permanent unhappiness would be if you go back with him.
Now... go rent Fried Green Tomatoes and watch it all the way through while eating a pint of Ben & Jerry's. Feel empowered. Remember that you deserve to be happy and he didn't do it for you. Allow yourself to be happy with someone else... and choose better next time :)
2006-06-24 11:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people stay in relationships, jobs, etc... that don't work because they're afraid they can't do any better. If you don't want him back, don't take him back. However, since most men want what they can't have don't be surprised if he keeps trying to win you over. Two very good books to read are _Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway_ by Susan Jeffers and _Why Men Love Bitches_ - don't let the title of the second one throw you off. A B***h is defined as a "Babe In Total Control of Herself. Good luck!
2006-06-24 11:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by Talon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some years ago I made that same decision with two toddlers,
It was rough at first but now when I look back I know I made the right choice I am re-married and very happy and my kids are both in college and happier too. Don't look back look forward you only live once.
2006-06-24 11:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by tina m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were miserable there is no need to continue it and put on a front that your okay. If he doesn't understand then that is his problem and you should move on
2006-06-24 11:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just answered your own question...u broke up because u were miserable, why go back?
2006-06-24 11:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by stillatello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need the abuse, move on to a better life.
2006-06-24 11:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by ssanchez2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋