it took us 2 1/2 years to have sex we were scared and unprepared but now we did it and i wanna try differetn positions im really shy to ask we barely started having sex 3 months ago im using protectin we are using condoms and i'm taking the pills so idk should i ask i know if i was ready we would be able to talk about it but i dont know what he's not willing to do i should ask right
2006-06-24 03:47:01 · 9 answers · asked by nena56 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
It's ok to be shy! No one can get that into it and be all experimental that fast. Take your time! It can be a very personal and emotional experience. Not every couple can talk openly about it. But as long as you're being safe (which I'm glad you are), stick with the positions that work best for now. Then slowly suggest little things, like "why don't you turn around this way a little bit." You can also get sex books like at Spencer's Gifts and each read them on your own in privacy so you have some ideas, but it isn't so awkward.
Continue to be safe! It's easy to use protection every time at first, but after awhile, people tend to get careless and think it doesn't matter as much.
2006-06-24 03:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by chica_zarca 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
This may sound that an adult jackass thing to say but please think about it....if you are afraid to talk about the sex you are having , you are probably not ready for this. All the condoms and birth control in the world don't make you ready for sex. You may feel like it is a natural step right now, but then so did I at sixteen. Sex is about love and connection not trying to impress or keep a man. Remember that this is a forever decision, what are you going to feel good having done in a few years?
2006-06-24 03:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by pashashoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both in the same mind frame about sex, then you should be able to talk freely about it, but if you're feeling he's a little more inhibitted than you, you could try coaxing him into a different position that you have been curious to try.
A subtle grip of his arm or a nod of the head could get him to understand you're trying to change positions.
2006-06-24 03:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Chris U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a guy myself, i'm telling you your making a mistake, i mean your 16 and you say your gonna be with this guy for a very long time, sorry to break it to you but that's a 1 in a million shot. look since you two both have had sex already and if he really does love you, try not having sex with him for about a month or two, if he gets to a point where he keeps asking you to have sex with him odds are he only wants sex and that's all he'll be expecting from you and that tells me he doesnt love you for who you are instead he loves you for what you can do. trust me on this one.
2006-06-24 03:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by G.O.A.T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 16 too and i think that both of you should take this relationship slow and step by step. If you both love each other i think
the two of you should sit and talk about this and if he continues to ask you for sex he doesn't respect you at all.
2006-06-24 04:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by ticastyle_16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents...you are way too young to have sex. Please enjoy the friendship but do not lose your body and soul because before you know it ..you might just end up pregnant and alone.Do not be naive and give in to a boys' demand and persuasion.Respect yourself and your body because it is your greatest possession.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-06-24 03:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which just proves that you are too young to be having sex!
2006-06-24 03:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre marital sex is bad. But if you want to do it go ahead.
2006-06-24 03:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cannot talk with your partner openly and honestly about sex, you are to young to be having it.
2006-06-24 03:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by j_ardinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋