My boyfriend is in a bowling league which he goes to every Friday night. There's a girl there who constantly flirts with him. It started out as joking/sharing interests. The second time we went, I noticed that she touched his arm for no reason. The third time we were there she playfully pushed him. The flirting is getting much worse (on her end) but on the other hand he loves the attention & does nothing to stop her. It really bothers me when she touches him. When she does he usually comes over and hugs/kisses me, but I feel like he only does that so he can continue flirting without me getting mad. It also bothers me that they have so much in common while me and my boyfriend are very different. He's always said that that's what he loves about me (I'm unlike any girl he's ever dated) but I feel like the fact that they have common interests is something I can't compete with. I refuse to compete for his attention, but it's breaking my heart to see this....what do you guys think?
2006-06-24 03:41:22 · 12 answers · asked by sandraevans31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
....but he continues to invite me to this bowling thing.
2006-06-24 03:45:31 · update #1
she knows we're together. he says he's not flirting he's just social...he'll start conversations with random people (men and woman....young or old) which is true
i talked to him about it once and he said i had no reason to be jealous bc he loves only me. he also said that i was being silly bc she's a child (she's 18, he's 24) that does nothing to comfort me though bc my parents are 12 years apart.
and i am afraid to bring it up again bc i don't want to be the "psycho-jealous" girlfriend
2006-06-24 03:58:38 · update #2
get over it. he comes over and hugs and kisses you. Hello!! have him join another league. different people are in better realtionships. that's what makes a relationship work out. if you have common things you both like what is the adventure in dating? tell her to back off since your boyfriend doesn't have the gunts to. go with him when he goes bowling. several opporunity you need to take. don't break up with him because of this or she will win. you have something she wants....be a strong person and hand on to it.
2006-06-24 03:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kathi T 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I agree with u, she's flirting and he( like any guy) likes it when a girl who's young and pretty gives him attention, But he needs to show u some respect, and tell this young thang that he has a girlfriend ( who's with him) he needs to tell her she has to stop because his g/f doesn't like it,
She too is not showing respect either because she has to know Ur there and u don't like this( I'm sure she will say something like) I don't mean anything about it, I'm just being friendly and if has a problem with that then she too jealous.
U should tell him that if he cares anything about your relationship then he needs to pay some attention to you and realize u don't like her touching and flirting with him.
And coming over to kiss and hug u after her flirting is not gonna make things better.
Tell him if he doesn't tell her, then ur gonna tell her, so whats it gonna be,,, and when he tells her tell her in front of u and mean it.
Nip this in the bud girl it if bothers u this much.
2006-06-24 04:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, if you love him, you should trust him.
second of all, if he really loves you, there nothing in this world to doubt your relationship. it seems, he is truthful and faithful to you, he even invite you to this event, he acts unmaliciously to this girl flirting. its up to you to stop feeling insecure. the best of all, learn how to bowl, be there where he wants you to be. he enjoy bowling, you should participate and see to it what makes him happy.
then, don't analyze something about him enjoying the flirting from others while you are there, if it bothers you, why don't you ask him and tell him how you feel instead of asking this kind of question here? would you rather hear it from him than from others who is not serious answering your question? others may clouded your mind and might commit wrong decision. its kind of bad how you think right now and how about if you read something you don't want to read? that will upset you more. with this feature, you just want to see what other thought is, like a survey, but honestly, if im you, i will open up with my love one and this way, it will bond more rather than worrying something that is not even there.
2006-06-24 04:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by salome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be worried. If the flirting gets worse, ask your bf about what is going on. If he tells you nothing, say you saw what was going on. And if you have someone that you seem to have a lot in common, start to flirt with him and see how your bf handles it.
2006-06-24 03:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is enjoying her attention and if ever he wants to cheat on you, she will be the one. If you have the guts, you should talk to her and tell her to stop the flirting. If she doesn't stop, make it an open issue and consider her your enemy and don't allow your bf to talk or play with her anymore. OR get your husband to join another bowling league or joint.
2006-06-24 03:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does "She" know you two are together? If not, don't blame her. Have you directly asked your man about it? If not, then it's your problem.
Look, every man loves attention, just like you do. If you think she is giving him too much attention; maybe it is time to reevaluate the amount of attention you give to him.
Men are ego maniacs, feed it and be fed. Feed it not and be starved yourself.
2006-06-24 03:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by cloveman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but u must be worried
my advice is to know what he like and know his interesting things and do it and share him
try to find bad points about this girl to let him leave her
the best thing to start the change with ur self before do that with others
2006-06-24 04:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have some pride....just don't go bowling....The girl may not realize how her actions appear, much affect someone.....Don't give in to the jealousy....Your boyfriend KNOWS it bothers you yet wants you to come watch him bowl.....he wants an audience and not for his bowling skill...
2006-06-24 03:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by Paula M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about this and give that girl a piece of your mind..
2006-06-24 03:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by poetic_lala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him about it and next time get him away from her
2006-06-24 03:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by Casey B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋